Do You Want to Write a Book? Here's the Most Important Step.

I'm often asked, "If I want to write a book, what's the most important thing I can do right now?"

The most important thing is actually not a tip or tactic. It's a mindset shift.

It's the shift from expert to mentor.

The Diminishing Returns of the Expert

Everyone wants to be an expert. In fact, in the world of online marketing, it seems like everyone IS an expert.

Of course, there's nothing wrong with being an expert. We all want to master our craft, and we should put the time in to do so. I hope everyone wants to do what it takes to earn the status of expert in their field.

However, if we want our expertise to actually change others' lives for the better, particularly through writing a book, being an expert isn't enough. Ultimately it has diminishing returns.

Why?

Because the role of expert is defined by what we know and the solutions we offer. This is wonderful if someone is looking for information only. But if you want to lead your client, audience, or reader on a transformative journey, where they have to change their thoughts, behaviors, or habits to put your solution into practice, they need more than a solution.

They need someone who remembers what it's like NOT to be the expert.

Who remembers what the problem looks, sounds, and feels like before they discovered the solution.

Who remembers the journey they had to take to arrive at the solution, step by step, and how they felt at each juncture.

They need a mentor.

Expert as Hero

Before we shift to the mentor too quickly, I want to make sure we fully appreciate experts and their hard-earned wisdom. After all, the expert is the winner. The expert is the main character in their own success story.

We can actually view a success story in a couple of ways, depending on whether we're observing it (or have already lived it and are looking backwards), or we're experiencing it right now.

The Classic Story Arc

To understand the difference between a story that's completed and a story that happening right now, let's look at the classic story arc most of us learned in freshman English class (but probably don't remember).

Here's a quick refresher.

The classic story arc represents an outer journey - a story from the perspective of the reader or observer as the story is taking place. OR, if the story has a happy ending, from the perspective of the expert, looking back over their own journey after they've successfully completed it.

Let's say we're the skeptical, distracted reader or Netflix browser. At the beginning, the story has to work hard to get our attention. We're only mildly interested as the setting becomes clear and we begin to care about the main character(s). Then an incident pushes the main character out of their comfort zone. Whoa. Now we're paying attention. (Most stories these days don't bother with the setting or status quo and jump straight to the incident).

We get hooked as the main character ventures further into the unknown (rising action), and we realize things don't look good for our hero - how will they survive? The more strife, pain, and challenge they go through (crisis and climax), the better the story is. We're rooting for our hero, so we're hoping for a happy ending, but even if the main character dies in the end (falling action and resolution), it can still be an instructive, entertaining, and even great story.

But what if you're the main character in the story - as it's happening?

The Hero's Journey

Joseph Campbell's hero's journey motif maps the inner journey from the main character's perspective. It helps us recognize what it feels like to become the hero of our own life story - and notice how the arc goes down.

In our status quo, we're content...but there's an inner restlessness. Then we encounter an opportunity (or crisis): a call to adventure and risk. Internally, we face uncertainty and doubt as we begin our new journey, but fortunately, before we get too discouraged, a mentor magically appears to guide us on own new path. (Whether we recognize the mentor is a different issue.)

As helpful as it is to have a mentor, we still must walk our own path. We must bear the consequences of the risk we've taken, losing our life as we know it and rarely having time or space to grieve it. We face new challenges and build new skills, although we typically only recognize these skills much later. As far as we're concerned, we're fighting to survive. We are brought to the end of ourselves, fighting an enemy we can't see, often alone, in a great battle.

And even if we conquer that inner enemy, we still have the return home - and the work of rebuilding ahead.

Only with the gift of time, space, and distance do we see we have been on a transformational journey, and we will never be the same.

What makes it worth it is we realize (aha) we have a gift no one can take away from us. A gift of direct experience, of hard-won wisdom, of eternal value. A gift, a message, we now embody.

The expert is the professional world's equivalent of the hero.

For many, this is enough. It's more than enough. They're willing to live out the rest of their days on the accolades, likes, and follows from being the hero of their own story.

But for some, that won't be enough.

Shifting from Hero to Mentor

For some, the gifts they receive from this journey become so valuable that they want to share them with others in a more direct way. Some even willingly repeat the cycle by becoming a mentor to others and walking with them through their own similar journey.

They know they could never truly be a mentor without having gone through the pain of that journey themselves. Only now are they equipped to accompany others through their own journey of pain, struggle, doubt, and challenge - knowing they're experiencing these shadows not because they're doing something wrong, but because they're doing something right.

If this is you, how do you shift from hero to mentor?

1. You get crystal clear on your own hero's journey and on the gifts you have to share as a result of your own battles.
2. You spend time with others who are still on the journey, you learn the language they use to describe the unfamiliar terrain (even though your language is more accurate), and you use their language while guiding them onward.
3. You don't just bark directions; you remember what the journey feels like at every juncture, and your compassion and patience are sources of strength.
4. You know your role is guide, not rescuer; you know the hero must ultimately fight their own battles if they are to emerge transformed.
5. You know starting the journey over and descending into the cave again (and again) will bring up the demons of your past - and you're willing to face them again, knowing the journey of growth is not linear but an upward spiral.
6. You recognize that your job is not to be right, but to help others successfully navigate their own journey.
7. You count the cost of it all, and you realize that being the mentor in someone's else story, rather than remaining the hero of your own, will exponentially increase your positive impact in the world.
8. You learn to view others' successes as your successes, because ultimately we're all one.

Becoming an expert is the pre-work of impact. Once you shift from expert to mentor, that's where the real work begins.

I help leaders and experts write books at the intersection of their deepest purpose and their readers' deepest needs. If you're thinking about writing a book, I'd love to connect.

I offer two programs to empower entrepreneurs, coaches, consultants, and expert practitioners to share their message with those who need it most.

1. Life Story Coaching: Ready to discover your story of service? This 1:1 coaching intensive provides a supportive environment for you to share your life experiences, view them through an empowering lens, and write a public version of your story that leaves you and others inspired.
2. VIP Book Coaching: Ready to share your unique idea of impact? Work 1:1 with me and receive the plan, process, and expert support you need to get your book into the world at the right time and the right way—and create transformative, lasting relationships with your readers.

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