EMERGENT LEADERS NEWSLETTER/053/HOW TO SET CLEAR EXPECTATIONS AS A NEW LEADER WITHOUT COMPROMISING WORKPLACE RELATIONSHIPS

Stepping into a leadership role can be both exciting and daunting, especially for those who are transitioning from being a peer to first-time leader. One of the biggest challenges new leaders face is setting clear expectations while maintaining positive relationships with their team members. The fear of being perceived as authoritarian or losing friendships often leads to anxiety and hesitation in taking on a leadership role in the first place. However, effective communication can bridge this gap, enabling new leaders to show authority in a collaborative and respectful manner.  

This week’s newsletter explores key communication techniques to help new leaders set clear expectations without compromising their established workplace relationships. 

SHIFTING FROM PEER TO LEADER WORKPLACE RELATIONSHIPS 

Transitioning to a leadership role means you are no longer simply a peer, but now a guide and mentor. It’s essential to recognize that this shift doesn’t require you to abandon your previous relationships but it will require you to redefine them. Your role now includes holding team members accountable, which, when done effectively, can foster trust and respect rather than resentment. 

HERE ARE SOME KEY ACTIONABLE STEPS TO ALLOW A MORE PEACEFUL SHIFT TO LEADERSHIP:  

1. Set the Stage with Transparency 

Begin your leadership journey with an open conversation. Share your excitement and acknowledge the change. Let your team know that while your role has evolved, your commitment to their success and the team’s goals is top priority. 

For example, you could say something like: "I’m excited to step into this new role, and I want to assure you that my primary goal is to support our team’s success. I understand that my responsibilities now include ensuring we meet our targets and holding everyone accountable, and I believe we can achieve this through clear, open communication and mutual respect." 

But the real key to success here is to prove it through your actions. DO what you SAY you’re going to do. Always ask yourself, “What evidence of this am I putting out there?” before demanding it of your team members.

2. Define Clear Expectations 

Clear expectations are key to effective leadership. And it’s been my experience from working with over 100 leaders that while many of them believe they are clear when giving instructions, most of their team members would disagree. It’s simple: When team members know what is expected of them, it reduces ambiguity and anxiety, it is also so much easier to hold them accountable. What do I mean by clear instruction? Be specific about the desired outcomes (goals), about milestones and deadlines, and standards of performance. 

As a guideline, you can create “SMART” goals – to ensure that communicated expectations are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. Schedule regular meetings to discuss progress, provide feedback, and adjust expectations as needed. 

3. Nurture Open Dialogue 

Encourage team members to voice their concerns, ask questions and provide feedback. An open dialogue ensures that everyone is on the same page and feels valued – that nothing is left unsaid and unheard. While this is an environment all organizations should strive for, things can really shift with an internal promotion. Jealousy, envy, resentment can all come into play, especially if other peers were also vying for the leadership position. If you sense a negative shift, even once the dust has settled, you might want to take the lead and bring it up with the individual(s) yourself. Listen to their concerns with empathy and agree on how you can better work together moving forward. Make a real effort to understand their concerns, their long-term vision, and together come up with a plan to help set them up for success. If they know you have their backs, they will also back down their defenses.  

4. Collaborative Goal Setting 

When possible, involve your team in the goal-setting process. This collaborative approach ensures buy-in and makes everyone feel responsible for the outcomes because it reduces the perception power dynamics. Use team meetings to brainstorm and set goals together rather than to present the game plan. This will create an opportunity to recognize and incorporate individual strengths, ideas and perspectives into the overall plan. 

5. Provide Constructive Feedback 

Feedback is so crucial for growth, but it needs to be constructive. If the focus is on behaviors and outcomes rather than personal attributes, the potential for conflict will be greatly reduced. Keep the SBI Model (Situation-Behavior-Impact) in mind when providing feedback: Describe the situation, the behavior observed, and the impact of that behavior. This keeps the feedback objective and actionable. Feedback should also be given out equitably amongst team members. And of course, it’s always best practice to balance constructive feedback with positive reinforcement to motivate and encourage great work, as well as empower all your team members.  

6. Lead by Example 

Again: Lead by example. Your actions set the tone for your team. Demonstrate the behavior and work ethic you expect from your team members. Be consistent in your actions and decisions and show integrity in all your dealings. 

Transitioning into a leadership role doesn’t mean you have to abandon your collaborative spirit. In fact, when executed well, collaboration can help you transition. By setting clear expectations through effective communication, you can create a positive and productive team environment. Leadership is not about authority but about guiding and supporting your team towards shared goals. Embrace the shift with confidence, and your team will follow suit. 

If you are looking for a more customized leadership development experience, leadership coaching may be the better option to get you to your professional development goals faster. Book a complimentary “Discovery Call” to discuss your goals and see if working with a leadership coach might be the way to go.