The Exceptional, Acceptable and Unacceptable in Leadership
I recently had the pleasure of hosting Mark Bennett, a renowned performance coach, on my podcast. Mark specializes in helping individuals reach their peak potential, whether in sports, business, or the military. He applies the same core principles across these diverse fields.
One aspect of our conversation that truly resonated with me was the UAE acronym he shared. As I reflect on my own work in developing leaders through coaching, I find this acronym particularly insightful regarding expectations and standards. Great leaders consistently hold themselves and others to high standards, doing so in empowering ways.
The UAE acronym stands for:
These three questions are crucial for defining the standards necessary to achieve great work. It's essential to recognize that "great" doesn’t always mean "exceptional." As Mark emphasizes,
“Performance is a behavior, not an outcome.”
The best performers understand this principle and actively cultivate specific behaviors to enhance their skills. Rarely does anyone wake up intending to deliver subpar work; most leaders genuinely aspire to excel. However, many inadvertently create barriers to their success by neglecting the internal work needed to better understand themselves. Some may think this reflective effort is too time-consuming or that true leadership is merely about pushing through challenges. In reality, the journey of self-awareness is not just an investment in oneself; it’s a crucial step toward empowering both ourselves and others to reach our fullest potential.
In holding ourselves and others accountable to the highest standards, genuine support is essential. As leaders, we must learn to lean on others for support while also providing the necessary encouragement for others to grow in their roles. Building and maintaining trust is critical. As leadership expert Patrick Lencioni wisely states:
"Trust is the foundation of all healthy relationships. When there is no trust, there is no real communication.”
Great leaders invest in others, helping them discover authentic meaning and purpose in their work. They recognize the importance of making people feel valued and prioritized, fostering relationships within the workplace. They also hold themselves and others accountable for their words and actions, modeling accountability and actively seeking feedback for improvement.
Returning to the UAE acronym, we must recognize that we won’t always perform at our best. There will be challenging days when we fall short, but what truly matters is our consistency in showing up. Acceptable performance doesn’t mean lowering our standards; it reflects our commitment to improvement, even on tough days. Acceptable leadership behaviors and outcomes still achieve our goals, as we remain aware of our true standards. It’s crucial to understand the boundary between acceptable and unacceptable performance. Only you can identify if you’ve slipped into unhelpful patterns that cross into the ‘unacceptable’ zone. If you find yourself there, how can you hold yourself accountable and make the necessary changes to return to the ‘acceptable’?
So, I challenge you to think more deeply about your own leadership by answering the reflective questions in the photo below. In doing so, what comes up for you? Please remember that true leadership isn’t just about achievement; it’s about the relentless pursuit of excellence in yourself and those around you. Thanks for reading and for sharing this article with anyone who you feel will benefit from checking it out. As well, if you would like to check out my podcast with the brilliant Mark Bennett, you can find it here.
Performance Architect. Over 3 decades maximising performance, building cultures & providing effective change support strategies for business & sport. Providing clarity in a World of theories & contradictions
2moThanks for the shout out andy vasily always important to remember that UAEs are a pre agreement of dialogue linked to present capabilities, & are not fixed. Meaning as capability increases the UAEs can be reviewed & adjusted. Some never change, some will definitely grow over time. Great teams will proactively build their own UAEs with honestly & accuracy around roles & tasks. What's important is that they are clear 'what does that look/sound like' and not generalised words that can be interpreted 100 ways. Then kept alive, honoured & used as both judgement & review references 👊🏻
Sales Strategist - Leadership Coach - Management Consultant
2moSetting realistic and achievable goals/objectives are a key piece of the puzzle before leaders/managers define Unacceptable, Acceptable, and Exceptional. If the targets and measures you set for a team are so high or require "the sun, moon and stars to align" then you'll simply create an environment where people do what's needed to keep their jobs or find somewhere else to work. I believe virtually everyone WANTS to do a good job and feel like their being successful and it starts with trusting their leaders/managers to set a direction that makes sense, targets that are achievable, and rewards (pay, bonus, benefits) that are reasonable given those targets. It's a balancing act that is never perfect but its easy to see when things are too far out of balance -- targets are missed, micromanagement is implemented, and people start leaving the organization. Building the culture together is hard work but the best way to grow a high-performing organization.