The F-word

Let's talk about the elephant in the room, shall we? The F-word.

FEAR.

Being unfuckwithable is mistaken for being fearless. That nothing touches you, you are emotionless, you are like a rock.

But in fact, it is the total opposite of being fearless or emotionless. Partially it is about learning to embrace fear and making it your best friend.

Fear is probably the strongest emotion that makes us very susceptible to other people's opinions of us and negativity that might come our way.

Our ancestors learned that fear helps us survive. Fearing a lion from eating us, fearing other tribes from attacking us, fearing being excluded from the tribe and dying of hunger! Thank you fear for keeping humanity alive for all these millions of years!

The downside of fear though is when future events already ruined get out of hand.

Imagining the worst-case scenario before it even happens. Or how Paul McKenna said in his talk recently ....

"I have had many horrific experiences in my life, a few of them actually happened"

I want to share with you ONE THING that you can start implementing to become resilient or if you prefer the F-word, unfuckwithable.

PRACTISE ACCEPTANCE

A couple of years ago a dear friend of mine invited me to her beautiful country house in the south of Spain together with a group of women to do a women's circle while enjoying a relaxing day in nature.

One of the women happens to be a trained psychologist and she guided us through an exercise and guided meditation about emotions. I know that is what happens when a group of women gets together, it gets very "emotional".

I had never done anything like this before. So I was very curious and open to learning and seeing what this might lead to.

During the meditation, I saw myself being surrounded by small figures, similar to the minions from the Disney movie. They were surrounding me and bouncing around very cheerfully. And then I realized that these small characters were symbolizing my emotions. One was fear, one was anger, and another was joy. All my emotions were there, the good and the bad.

...and then I heard fear say..."Why do you not like me? Why do you like the others more?" "Yes, and me too, why do you not accept me?", said anger .

I know what some of you might be thinking, Amani did you take any mushrooms or something, were you tripping? I promise this was a substance-free experience!

It was truly mindblowing and such a WAKE-UP. I realized at that moment that it is true, I did prefer some emotions over others. I suppressed some, resisted them, and sometimes even hated them for showing up. And I forced myself to be happy all the time even when I was not feeling it.

So the FIRST step to becoming resilient is acceptance.

Accept all your emotions without labeling them as good or bad.

This poem from Rumi depicts this message beautifully.

Being unfuckwithable does not mean getting rid of fear and all of our "negative" thoughts and emotions, but it means changing our response to them. Can we learn to ACCEPT all of our emotions?

Let me know if you try this out and how practicing acceptance of ALL your emotions works for you.

Love & Energy,

Amani