Failure - learn to fail

Have you ever felt that certain goals are just out of reach, I know I have, not because they truly are, but because of a deep-seated belief that it's too late, or you lack the natural talent? It's a common feeling, one that can make us feel trapped in various aspects of life - be it in our careers, relationships, or personal aspirations.

Let's take a moment to remember Thomas Edison. It wasn't just his genius but his persistence through 10,000 attempts that led to the perfect light bulb. His story is a testament to the power of resilience.

In my journey, I've encountered similar revelations. I never considered myself athletic, mainly because I started sports later in life and didn't put in the necessary effort to improve. However, when I took up Brazilian Jiu Jitsu in my late twenties, my perspective shifted dramatically. I've since sparred with high-level athletes, challenging the notion that I wasn't "athletic". In Jiu Jitsu, we often say, "a black belt is a white belt that hasn't given up."

Theodore Roosevelt once said, "It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed."

This quote encapsulates the essence of my message today.

Success is built on a foundation of failures - not just any failures, but those we learn from.

Yes, just failures alone won’t lead you to success, it is what you learn from them that will. There has been countless studies about failure and there isn’t a specific number that will assure you to succeed. There are few things that were identified though:

The faster you fail, the faster you reach success

Identify what works and doesn’t

Continue doing works and improve what doesn’t

This reinforces what I have been doing myself for years, I've adopted a simple yet powerful method called SSCC, which I conduct as a retrospective every Friday to my personal life:

• Start: Identify new actions or habits that can propel you towards your goals.
• Stop: Recognize and eliminate thoughts or behaviors that hinder your progress.
• Continue: Acknowledge and maintain the practices that are yielding positive results.
• Change: Make minor adjustments to strategies that show potential with a bit of tweaking.

I even do it with my family sometimes depending on what I want to work on.

Why is this important? Improving ourselves has a ripple effect, inspiring those around us, including our children, who often learn more from what we do than what we say.

And why weekly? It aligns with the idea that the faster we encounter and learn from failures, the quicker we can pivot towards success. Don't wait until the year's end to realize you haven't made progress. Regular check-ins can guide you to adjust your course timely.

If you ever feel overwhelmed by emotions during this process, remember that every emotion is an opportunity for reflection and growth. Embrace these feelings as part of your journey.

I encourage you to try the SSCC method and see how it transforms your approach to challenges and goals. I'm eager to hear your stories and insights. Let's unlock our potential together.

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