Frenemy

Humans are friendly animals, and hence they make friends. People who love and support you give you happiness. You make different kinds of friends for many reasons and they need never be of the same kind as you are. Some friends give good advice, some give access to facilities, some for parties, some for travel, some for morning walks, some for dining out or club, some business contacts become family friends and some simply to cheer you up. Friends will come and go in your life; one important test of friendship is that they accept you for who you are. It’s okay to say that your happiness is equal to the quality of your friendship. So, being a great friend to someone and having friends support your back is good for your wellbeing. A healthy friendship will definitely give your life a positive boost. You’re surrounded by a circle of people that care about you. Unfortunately, that doesn’t happen always. What we need to be mindful of is that who amongst them are your frenemies. Your frenemy could be in your circle without you knowing it. You can never read another person’s mind, so spotting a frenemy is just as difficult. Your frenemy might nurse hidden jealousy against you but their attitude cleverly hides it. Frenemies are not so bad but remember that they are in your proximity and therefore they can easily hurt you. Consider this as some guidelines:

1. Hidden Jealousy

Jealousy is not such a bad thing, but people have a terrible inferiority complex and they tend to covet things you have, your clothes, and even looks. A jealous person will try to be competitive with you because they want to be better than you and will try to show that they are superior. Don’t let yourself be provoked by them as this kind of rivalry is the last thing you need to have.

They get spotted when you give them the good news, they will give their fake biggest smile. However, that smile will soon fade away and you’ll notice a troubled expression of disbelief and rage in them. Other than that, they may even start a false story of their own similar success or just a short okay to make your success seem ordinary.

2. Disguised Insults                                                                                                 

Or, backhanded compliments are really no compliments and are best left unnoticed. They are outwardly intended to make you feel good but, inwardly they are driving in the opposite direction. Sometimes it takes you a while to decode the real intent of the compliment. The best way to deal with them is to ignore them, says a curt and not so polite thank you, or acknowledge the good part only. If the hurt is of serious nature then take it head-on but keep your sense of humor intact. Don’t ever expect them to be generous in compliments and why would they, after all, they are your frenemy?

3. Spills Your Secrets

One of the most basic and fundamentals rules of friendship is never breaking a friend’s confidence. A frenemy’s character is exactly the opposite. No matter how big or small is your secret, it will make you feel bad and exposed if your frenemy spills it like an itch, they can stop but a scratch. They will secretly laugh at you will you feel the mortification. Once you share you lose control over your secret, so the golden rule is guarding your secrets carefully.   

4. Excessively dramatic

Some of your friends who are being overly melodramatic then it's very likely that they might be a frenemy. This behavior is not funny but they are trying to drain you. This means that when someone is dramatic, they’re actually trying to get attention. Getting your attention is a trick to mess around with your emotions.

5. Fakes Their Support

It is difficult to differentiate fake support from real support since the words used are the same, but the intention is not to support beyond pretentions. This is a very oft noticed characteristic of a frenemy. You might just notice that there’s something that doesn’t sound good, listen to your gut feeling and act accordingly.

6. Embarrasses You in Public

Embarrassing you publicly is a nasty way of discrediting you and revenge on you. And sometimes they enjoy repeated offend you for their sadistic pleasure. They will even break you don pieces because care a fig for your feeling. They mock your failures too. 

Frenemies will ha bossy nature and they will manipulate you the way they want, and even take your opportunities. The best way to deal with them is to root them out of your life, you don’t want their negativity in your life. Alternately deal cautiously and share little and never gossip. Payless attention and stay calm and unfazed by their behaviors. Be straightforward and make it amply apparently clear that they are not the type you like. Some frenemies can be misguided people but harmless and human. They may improve once they see your dislike for them and if the chance of their improvements, store them in your rings of friends or simply dump and move on.