From Comparison to Confident: How to Feel More Than Enough on Your Own
Nadja El Fertasi
Rebel with Purpose | Championing EQ in the Age of AI 🌍 | 🌱 Building Thriving Workplaces | 💧 Mental Health | 🛡️ Emotional Firewalls for Families | Speaker, Coach & Trainer | Building the Thrive with EQ Community 🤝
I’ve always been a fan of both creating and consuming content, but I don’t always get the balance right. Sometimes, I consume more than I create, which leaves me feeling drained, unfulfilled, and stuck in a cycle of comparison. Recently, I’ve decided to focus more on creating and less on consuming, and the shift has been profound.
When we create, we reclaim our narrative. We become active participants in our journey, rather than spectators of someone else’s.
Social media, for all its blessings, can also feel like a trap. When we overconsume—especially without balance—we can fall into patterns of comparison, envy, and even self-doubt. As creators, entrepreneurs, or professionals, seeing others excel while we feel stuck can make us question our value and place in the world.
No matter how confident we are, rejection or comparison can make us feel inadequate. It’s natural, but it’s also an opportunity. When we pause to process the pain, we can flip it into power.
Rejection isn’t the end; it’s redirection. Comparison isn’t your enemy; it’s your teacher. Jealousy isn’t weakness; it’s unexpressed desire waiting for action.
This week, I’ve been reflecting on these truths and how they’ve shaped my personal and professional life. I’ve learned that life isn’t about chasing someone else’s timeline or playing catch-up. It’s about standing firmly in who you are and walking your own path with courage and clarity.
And that’s what this week’s EQ Oasis Theme is all about:
How to stop comparing yourself to others, let go of jealousy, and embrace the truth that you are more than enough.
If this resonates, check out my Heal with EQ Newsletter, where I share personal stories, creative wisdom, and healing strategies for navigating these challenges with emotional intelligence.
Welcome to Your EQ Oasis Weekly Digest!
Each day, we’ll focus on practical tools, reflections, and stories to help you shift from perfectionism to self-acceptance and emotional freedom.
Monday: Moonlight Motivation 🌙
Theme: Turn Envy into New Energy
Jealousy and envy often feel like weaknesses, but what if they’re just signposts pointing toward unmet desires? Monday is the perfect day for introspection—symbolized by the moon’s energy—and a chance to transform envy into motivation.
This week, I shared how to channel jealousy into fuel for self-growth. By reframing these emotions with emotional intelligence, you can move from feelings of lack to a space of empowerment.
Key Insight:
"Jealousy isn’t about them; it’s about you. It’s a signal, not a sentence. Use it to uncover your desires, not to diminish yourself."
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Tuesday: Mars in Motion 🔥
Theme: From Comparison to Confidence
Mars, the planet of action, inspires us to release habits that no longer serve us and replace them with empowering practices. On Tuesday, I shared my journey of breaking free from comparison and embracing my own unique confidence.
In this week’s podcast episode, I explore how to redirect the energy wasted on comparison into building a life that feels aligned and fulfilling.
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Wednesday: Mercury’s Wisdom 💬
Theme: A Reminder from Your Future Self
Mercury’s energy is perfect for connecting with your inner wisdom and communicating with clarity. This week, I shared one of my favorite practices: writing a note from your future self. This powerful exercise helps you reconnect with your worth, even when life feels overwhelming.
Here’s an excerpt from this week’s note:
“You are enough. You’ve always been enough. Stop measuring your worth by the pace of others’ journeys. Your value isn’t found in comparison; it’s in the courage it takes to walk your own path. You are not behind. You are right where you’re meant to be. Trust that, and take the next step forward.”
Reflection Prompt:
What would your future self thank you for today?
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Thursday: Jupiter’s Growth 🌱
Theme: Energy Flows Where Attention Goes
When we compare ourselves to others, we pour our energy into thoughts that don’t serve us. This week, I shared how to use the ABCDE Technique (developed by Dr. Albert Ellis) to reframe limiting beliefs and redirect your attention toward self-growth.
Practical Steps to Try Today:
Key Insight:
"Your energy is precious—don’t waste it chasing someone else’s dreams. Redirect it toward building your own life."
Friday: Venus Friday 💖
Theme: Love Yourself, So You Can Love Others
Venus, the planet of love, reminds us that self-love isn’t selfish—it’s foundational. This week’s poem was written as a reminder to honor your worth and embrace who you are, flaws and all.
“You are not defined by the makeup on your skin but by the deeds that shape your soul. You are not a trophy to be shown by others; you are a diamond not everyone can afford. You are enough; you always have been. Close your eyes and listen to your heart. It knows—it has always known—that you, as you are, are enough.”
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Saturday: Saturn’s Shield 🛡
Theme: Boundaries as a Shield Against Comparison
Saturn teaches us the power of boundaries—not as barriers, but as structures that protect our energy and allow us to thrive. This week, I shared practical tips to set boundaries that keep comparison at bay and create space for self-growth.
Reflection Prompt:
What boundaries can you set today to reclaim your energy and focus on your goals?
Sunday: Solar Shine ☀️
Theme: Shine Bright Without Comparison
The sun doesn’t compare itself to the moon; it simply shines. This week’s EQ Vitamins are all about stepping into your light and embracing your unique brilliance.
🌱 Deepen Your Journey
Ready to take your emotional intelligence journey to the next level? Here are some powerful ways to deepen your growth and transformation:
Looking Ahead & Stay Connected
Next week, I’ll be sharing my personal journey with happiness—how I manage and sustain it as both a mindset and a way of life.
I’d love to hear from you! How do you navigate comparison? Share your story or reflections in the comments or reply to this email. Let’s grow together!
With love & gratitude,
Nadja 💙 💜 💗
P.S. If this resonates, share it with someone who needs to hear that they are more than enough.