Frustrated....and loving it !

I started feeling really frustrated with my business. It's tracking well but I need to be honest here I am a little impatient. I realised that I have a strategy running around my emotions since I was a little girl. I have always been really resourceful and a real "action" girl - even if its uncomfortable. I will "feel the fear" and do it anyway. However I know when I have done everything I can think of (this takes a long time) my go to place is to revert to three year old Sandy and bust into tears.

This is not a resourceful way to behave at my age (okay when you are 3 years old) and perhaps a little distressing for my husband and teenaged boys. So now I have changed that strategy and when I feel "frustrated" I think "fabulous" what is this telling me?

The first phase is recognition that something is not completely the way you want it. This is when you recognise in yourself something that needs improving (humbling, yes; uncomfortable, definitely; liberating and empowering, absolutely!).

This first stage may be a feeling of anger, frustration, or jealousy - it maybe just a niggling feeling that you can not put your finger on. These emotions and feelings are here for a reason as a wake up call....ask yourself what are these emotions telling me ?

The next phase is investigation - listening to your intuitive guidance, your red flag/green flag indicators and other signs and guidance regarding how to proceed. This is where you learn to listen to your self and start becoming comfortable with being you.

Then, usually slowly and reluctantly, comes belief that you can change something about yourself; and this belief stimulates action - such as picking up this book; ‘happening’ across a spiritual teacher and signing up for a course, etc. Once you’re committed to taking action, you’ve got to be doggedly stubborn about following through; otherwise, nothing much will ever change. 

This is where people (and me) can begin to loop. Just one step after the other.

You will come up against subconscious resistance to change. Acknowledging this resistance and continuing on your journey anyway, is easier than you think. Observe the resistance. It might come in the form of rationalisation: “I’ll just take a few days off from my affirmations. I’m so busy and too tired to focus on that right now. I’ll start again next week.” or “I am going on holiday, so I’ll pick up my meditation practice when I get home.”

No, you won’t.

Get through the habit-forming phase. It’s only 30 or so days out of your whole life and it’s not even “days,” it’s literally MINUTES of each day that you dedicate exclusively to yourself. You are worth it. Stay with it, until the habit you want to create is established, whether it’s a new belief, way of speaking, way of perceiving yourself, etc.

You’ll have a lot of momentum in the beginning and then it will taper off. Don’t give up at that point - it’s tempting to quit, but show yourself some love and be persistent. Be disciplined. Know that this is what you want and focus on it.

Create a habit of excellence - that’s a great way to accelerate your personal growth and bring some real, obvious positive change into your life.

We are what we repeatedly do. 

Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.

~ Aristotle