“The Grass is Greener on YOUR Side.”

The truth is, the grass is greener where it’s being cared for. Where it’s being watered. The lie of our culture will whisper that everyone else has it better, or we missed out somehow. It will draw us to compare and compete, but that is never the right way. The Almighty GOD desires that we cherish and love our spouse,. If we spend more time focusing on what we have, instead of what we think we don’t have, we’d be much more grateful for the treasure of our FAITH .

If you’re not happy, don’t stay in an unhappy situation. You deserve more.

For many of us, marriage can tend to bring our selfishness out like nothing else. We want our way. We insist on our rights. We want our spouse to make us happy, and right now! In the midst of demands, we’ll never be free to truly love and serve one another.

Your spouse should know how to meet all your needs.

Often we marry someone who is completely different than us. It’s true, many times, opposites do attract. But that doesn’t have to doom us to failure. Marriage is a life-long process of growing together. We don’t always get it right. We might even fail miserably. But just as we need grace and forgiveness, we need to extend it. Our spouses cannot read our minds; they may not receive and give love in the same way we do. But neither are we to expect that all of our needs be fulfilled by this one person.

Your kids should come first because they need you more.

This is a subtle lie of our culture that seeks to somehow make us feel like better, more attentive parents, when we cater to every need of our children. But the truth is, what our kids need more is to know that their mom and dad love each other. Our spouse should always have priority in our family. Through a committed, loving relationship, we’re better equipped to parent our children – together. This is often hard to live out. Through various stages, kids’ needs can seem constant, demanding, pressing.

You may have just fallen out of love.

We don’t really “fall” out of love, we may have just stopped making the choice to love. We might find ourselves drifting away. The world’s call to simply “follow your heart”. Our hearts cannot always be trusted, because if we’re not making wise choices to stay close to the home front, we may find ourselves not only drifting, but getting caught up in fast moving currents.

Your marriage is beyond repair. Once trust is broken, it can never be restored.

Many have walked through very difficult seasons of marriage. Some are still healing. Others have come through to the other side by the grace of God. Sometimes the marriage is saved. Sometimes it is not. But it doesn’t change this truth – no matter what we face.

Innocent flirting or viewing pornography won’t really hurt your marriage.

 Your spouse will never know anyway...

There’s no such thing as “innocent” flirting. At the root, it’s seeking attention from and giving suggestive attention towards another person who is not your spouse. Run from it. Pray to God to help you keep your eyes away from temptation. Pornography is a trap of the enemy and an open door to work destruction in your home.

Marriage is a 50-50 relationship.

Marriage takes two people, fully committed, choosing every day, to love and cherish. 50/50 will never be enough to see you through the toughest times. It’s only half effort and it seeks to compare what we’re doing with the other, always needing to check to see if you are keeping up with expectations.

Marriage is an amazing gift from God. Yet often, the greatest gifts aren’t always cherished the way they should be. Life gets busy. We get hurried and distracted. We start taking each other for granted. We argue and let resentments rise. We compare our own marriages with those around us, longing for happily ever after, instead getting stuck in hurt and regret. We begin to drift apart. And sadly, many times, we start looking for the nearest “exit.”

In a society that bases many of its beliefs about marriage on reality TV love stories or the latest Hollywood / Bollywood news, we’d be wise to stay cautious about all it suggests. With divorce rates still around 50 percent, and statistics that say “23 percent of men and 19 percent of women have admitted to cheating on their spouse,” are we sure we’d want to listen to its advice?

Divorce is always an easy option.

If we enter into marriage where divorce is an “option,” we’re already in trouble. Because times will inevitably get difficult, and someone will start looking for a fast way out. The truth is, sadly, divorce happens. But even when it does occur, it’s never an “easy option.” It strikes a heavy blow to all involved.

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Thank you … When we use the phrase, …”MARRIAGE IS A GODLY THING “…. what we seem to be trying to say is that there should be a lot of room for intelligent disagreement around life’s aesthetics – and that we don’t feel comfortable about asserting the superiority of any one style or approach over any other. It implies an acute sensitivity to conflict and a fear of being rude or mean to others. However, by resorting to the phrase, what we actually do is unleash a stranger and more reckless situation: what we’re in effect stating is that nothing is ever really more beautiful – or uglier – than anything else.

Marriage is Sacred !

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