Happy Father’s Day to all the wonderful fathers.

Happy Father’s Day to all the wonderful fathers.

I only lived with my father till age 5. The only memories I have are going to fun parties with him. One memory that stuck for me was when I had an earache, and he held me in his arms and blew warm air in my ears to ease the pain. After my parent’s divorce, I saw him for visitations at times and never really had him in my life as a role of a father. I remember allowing myself to get mad at him after he passed away, followed by forgiving him for not being the father I expected. Then I got to learn about who he was as a man through the eyes of others who knew him: a great, brilliant man with a great heart and good sense of humor.  

I was very aware of how much not him in my life having had affected me in choosing mates, feeling confident, knowing that I had someone to back me up, and many other areas of my life. So, I know how important the role of fathers is in the life of their children.

To all the fathers, I wish for you to know the gift that you are to your children. Use your gift wisely. 

Your caring, nurturance, strength, wisdom, playtime, reading time, and cuddle time are all gifts.

To all the stepfathers and the ones that are not officially a father but took on the role regardless, and for all the men who are great mentors, coaches, teachers, and therapists, know that every act of kindness you have done has impacted another human being in the most profound way. Your legacy is within your actions in moving someone’s heart.