Have You Been Labeled “Too Emotional”? Here’s How It Can Be Your Superpower

Do you find the low hum of your neighbor's fan extremely frustrating?

Does a scratchy seam on your clothes prevent you from concentrating?

Does artificial lighting cause you to get headaches? 

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may be highly sensitive.

These feelings may make you feel crazy, broken, and alone but about 30% of the population are highly sensitive. 

Being highly sensitive is NOT a disadvantage.

Rachel Radway, our guest on episode 77 of the podcast, is a certified leadership and executive coach and is particularly passionate about helping women leaders who are wired a little differently create the conditions they need to thrive.

So, in this newsletter, we’ll explore how we can start to understand our brains and create environments we can thrive in: 

1. Understanding the Extreme Expectations We Put On Ourselves
2. The Steps to Take To Start Understanding Your Brain and Creating an Environment You Can Thrive In
3. The Power of the Pause

Listen to the episode or scroll down to read one of the highlights of our conversation ↓

1) Understanding the Extreme Expectations We Put On Ourselves

Many high-achieving, highly perceptive women place extremely high expectations on themselves to control every aspect of their environment.

“Because we are processing so much, because we download so much information, because we notice all the details, because we tend to be good at both the big picture and the details at the same time, because we tend to have some issues with boundaries, we tend to optimize for successful group outcomes, not individual outcomes.“ - Rachel Radway

That last sentence is so important - we tend to optimize for successful group outcomes, not individual outcomes. This is something that has been shown in studies.

Rachel shares that all of the women that she works with tend to give 150% and they give it to everyone and everything else except themselves.

“So many women have just felt this pressure on us our entire lives, whether it's from our families, our cultures, our societies. It goes back to the I'm weird. I'm broken. I'm crazy because everybody else seems to be able to handle it. And somehow I'm the one who feels more pressure, more struggle. Why is it just me? It's not just you. There are so many of us out there.” - Rachel Radway

Rachel explains that many of the female role models in leadership that we look up to are not being their authentic selves.

“They're putting on a persona, they're masking, they're coming across a certain way. So we have a choice. We can either try to do that too, or we can try to be our authentic selves, which can be really hard when you've got these sensitivities and when you are wired for successful group outcomes and not the individual outcomes.” - Rachel Radway

2) The Steps to Take To Start Understanding Your Brain and Creating an Environment You Can Thrive In

Rachel shared two steps we can take to start understanding our brains and creating environments we can thrive in:

1. Get Support

“It is really hard to do it yourself. But there are so many others of us here who hear you and see you and have been there and are still there and understand what it is that you're dealing with.” - Rachel Radway

2. Be Gentle with Yourself

“The high expectations are really, really hard to tear down. They're ingrained as well. The perfectionism, the lack of boundaries, the inability to say no - so many of us struggle with those things. Self-care is the key to all of it.” - Rachel Radway

By self-care, Rachel isn’t referring to getting a massage, she means something like getting enough sleep.

“Do everything that you can to create conditions for high-quality sleep, because a lot of us have trouble sleeping. It may take us longer to fall asleep.” - Rachel Radway

This may mean turning off your phone and computer an hour or two before you go to bed.

“Listen to your body and your soul and what it is telling you that you need and do those things.” - Rachel Radway 

3) The Power of the Pause

From a very young age we stop listening to our bodies and the world around us starts conditioning us on how we need to behave, show up, and engage with the world.

Most people spend their entire lives never having truly listened to their body.

One of the ways Olivia listens to her body is by asking it what it needs from her while she is in the shower.

“What do you need? Do you need food? Do you need water? Do you need yoga? Do you need something from me? [...] The return on investment for that little bit of time has been remarkable.” - Olivia Grant-Cream

Oliva explains that she can actually feel her anxiety getting too high or that burnout is on the way and she can take steps to prevent it before it gets too bad.

“The pause is the most important thing we can do.” - Rachel Radway

Rachel explains that it really is all about mindfulness.

“It's not about sitting and meditating for an hour. It's not about shutting all thoughts out of your mind.” - Rachel Radway

Rachel explains that mindfulness is checking in with yourself and seeing what your body needs.

“The number of times where I have been sitting at my computer at 10 o'clock at night trying to finish something, ignoring the fact that I'm exhausted, I haven't eaten dinner, I may have to go to the bathroom. [...] Why do we do that? We're programmed to do that. And our brains are not helping.” - Rachel Radway

That’s why pausing and taking a moment to check in with yourself is so important.

To hear the full conversation with Rachel Radway on the Embracing “Only” Podcast, scroll up and hit play – or click here and tune into episode 77.

Ready to make a change?

We’re passionate about bringing extraordinary guests to Embracing “Only” so listeners can see what’s possible, feel inspired and empowered, and most of all, feel motivated to take action and make moves that will get them closer to their goals.

If you’re still listening, you’re probably an “only” in your workplace or field of work. And you have two paths ahead of you:

1. You work in the corporate workspace, you want to continue your journey, but learn how to thrive and grow in that environment as an “only;”
2. You have made the decision to leave the corporate workplace, but you don’t know how to make the transition or what that next step is.

If you’re #1, Olivia Grant-Cream can equip you with the tools and strategies to thrive. Connect with Olivia on LinkedIn to learn how you can excel in your current role and make your mark. More info at oliviacream.com. 

Set your sights on a place higher than your eyes can see. 

If you’re #2, Archita Sivakumar Fritz can guide you through a successful transition. Reach out to Archita on LinkedIn for support in launching your entrepreneurial journey and embracing new challenges. More info at readysetbold.com. 

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