Healing After Trauma - Is it "Your Responsibility"?

Imagine hearing: "Trauma is not your fault." A powerful statement, right? But then comes the "but..." You've heard it before - "but you should have fought back," "but you shouldn't have gone there," and now, "but healing is your responsibility."

In this newsletter, we explore the weight of that "but" and why Trauma is not your fault. Period.

The Dismissive "But" and the Burden of Responsibility:

Trauma survivors know the sting of the "but." It minimizes their experience and places the blame back on them. But healing is rarely a solo journey. It comes with emotional, physical, and social complexities. Saying "it's your responsibility" can feel isolating and overwhelming, adding another layer of guilt to an already heavy burden.

The Power of the Pause:

Instead of the "but," imagine a full stop after "Trauma is not your fault." Imagine the space it creates, a moment to breathe, to truly absorb that truth. This pause acknowledges your experience without dismissing it, offering validation and a chance to simply be.

Healing Together:

We are social creatures, wired for connection. Healing from trauma thrives in supportive environments. It's not about individual willpower but about co-regulation, feeling safe, strong, and connected. So, instead of "your responsibility," we offer supportive alternatives:

• "And healing is possible within safe and supportive relationships."
• "And you have the capacity to heal alongside others who care."
• "I'm here to listen and provide support on your healing journey."

More Than Words:

This newsletter is just a start. Language is powerful, but actions speak louder. We believe in creating communities that believe survivors, offer resources, and advocate for support systems.

Join the Conversation:

• Share your thoughts on the "healing responsibility" phrase.
• What helped you on your healing journey?
• How can we create more supportive spaces for survivors?

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Together, let's create a world where trauma is acknowledged, not blamed, and healing is supported, not a burden.