How To Build A Life You Love
It seems obvious that every single person should want to build a life that they love.
If I look at the people that I've coached, the people that I've talked to, it seems like most people are slightly content with their lives and sometimes, maybe even a little bit agitated with their lives.
Some people kind of hate their lives, but very rarely do I meet someone who’s absolutely in love with every aspect of their life. And so I want to ask you before we dive in, do you love your life? Do you love every single aspect of your life or are there certain pieces of your life that you don’t like?
To be honest with you, there shouldn't be any pieces of your life that you don't love. I don't know about you, but I want to be working towards building a life that I love every single day. Are there pieces that I still want to change? Absolutely, but over the past 14 years, I feel like I've been pulling out the weeds of the things that I don't want in my life and replanting flowers instead.
A life that you love is built. It's something that you have to put a lot of intention into. It's built intentionally and it's built meticulously. A perfect life is built. You have to plan it, you have to assess it and you have to execute on everything that you want in your life.
One of the things that hold people back from building the lifestyle they love is feeling stuck in the life that they have. If you feel like you're stuck in your current life, then mentally, it's going to seem hard for you to build a life that you love, it’s going to seem like it's near impossible, it’s going to seem like you’re not going to get it this life, but if you build on it you will.
A friend of mine was the 30th employee in Facebook. He was fired a year before they went public and missed out on about $180 million and this sent him into depression. He was there for a while but then decided that he wasn’t going to be depressed anymore and made a plan.
So what he did, was he made a happiness list. Every single thing that made him happy he wrote down. Every single morning he’d look at that list and bring in as many of those things into his day as he could.
“I will not leave my depression or my happiness left up to chance. I'm going to be in control of it.”
Are you leaving your own life up to chance or are you being extremely intentional about every single thing that you need? What would it look like if you were to sit down and make a massive list of every single thing that you love, every single thing that makes you happy, every single thing that makes you feel better, everything that just makes you feel more alive?
If you have a pen and paper on hand, nows a good time to bring that out. I want you to assess every part of your life. What is working, what isn’t working, what can you do to make it better. Here are a few prompts.
Your significant other.
Your friendships.
Your family.
Your job/ career.
Your home.
Your finances
Your car.
Your morning routine.
Your night routine.
Your eating habits.
Your exercising habits.
Your spirituality.
Your self-growth.
Keep going with this. What is working, what isn’t working and what plan can you create to make it better. What can you do to change your current circumstance?
It takes time to change the person that you're with, it takes time to change the place that you live in, it takes time to change the career that you have, it takes time for change to happen but what if I told you that in 10 years from today, you will have a life that you absolutely love?
You're gonna have to work for it, you’re going to have to review it often and then you're going to have to adjust. Things are not going to work out exactly the way that you want. It's going to take some time, but isn't it worth it? If this is your life, shouldn't you be taking this more seriously than anything else that exists?
If you take the time and you put in the work, I promise you you're going to wake up one day and go, “Holy crap I love my life.” And that's all that really matters.
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