How Forgiveness Can Elevate Your Success

You may have heard the term “Forgiveness can set you free” and this statement is not wrong. We often hold on to so much “stuff” from the past, we often blame ourselves for things we had no control over, or we feel guilty about certain actions we have taken that have put us in a challenging situation.

There is so much that we often hold on to, unknowingly at that, which is affecting our every move. Everything is affected by this invisible shadow of our past. It affects our success, the way we live our lives, the people we surround ourselves with, even the people and circumstances we call forth. All that we experience today is an effect of what has happened in the past.

You may have worked really hard to let go of the past, to move on, to forget what has happened, maybe even done a lot of inner healing around the things that have happened in the past. However, all this healing is only going to get you so far. If you don’t allow yourself to forgive, you stay in this loop of reexperiencing certain things to prove to you that your past still has a hold on you.

No matter what happened in the past, you have the right to let go of the ties, set yourself free, and forgive all that has happened because, even if you may not realize this now, it was all to your highest and greatest good.

Everything that happens in our life all has a reason, it all is to our highest and greatest good because it leads us on the path we are meant to walk on. It is our guide towards learning the lessons we are meant to learn, helps us course correct when we have drifted away, it also allows us to experience life how we choose to experience it, but at the end, we will always be redirected to move back onto our path.

When you practice forgiveness work, you may have a challenging time forgiving someone for what they have done, especially if it was something so intense that you can’t seem to forgive this person for what they did. In instances like this, it’s not necessarily about forgiving the person, but more so forgiving the situation and your involvement in the situation. It’s about setting yourself free.

All that has happened in the past, may cause you to blame yourself, feel guilty, and unconsciously you may punish yourself for what has happened, for having given your power away to the situation, a person, or an experience. Often this self-punishment goes unnoticed but if there is a deep-rooted feeling of shame or guilt, subconsciously you may choose that you don’t deserve the things you want, that you are not worthy of having things to be easy. Ultimately, because of this deep inner sense of not deserving, and not feeling worthy, you end up resisting and rejecting everything good that is trying to come your way.

You may reflect back over your life, notice anytime when you wanted something to happen, you tried to manifest something that was important to you, maybe you wanted to attract more clients, increase your income, but no matter how much you believed, trusted, and took aligned actions, it didn’t come to you the way you had hoped, maybe it didn’t come at all, or maybe you had to work extra hard to get it.

You may tune into the experience and ask yourself, do you feel worthy and deserving of having it in just the way you wanted it? Do you feel as if you must work for what you want, you must earn it? Or do you feel as if you shouldn’t ask for more because others don’t have much either?

As you tune into the story and allow yourself to uncover the underlying feelings you have, you may realize that you have been telling yourself a lie. Because you do deserve, you are worthy of having all that you want and even more so, and you don’t have to work your tail off to make it happen.

Therefore, forgiveness work is so powerful, because it will set you free from all the self-blame, they believe you are not worthy or deserving. But it starts with allowing yourself to realize that you have sabotaged yourself by blaming yourself for certain things, by punishing yourself all on an unconscious level without you even being aware that you held yourself back, that you kept all the good things far away from you because you didn’t feel deserving of having what you want.

If you feel in alignment with what I just shared, you may try this Forgiveness Process and start setting yourself free from the past.

Step 1: Take your notebook and a pen and go somewhere where you can be undisturbed. You may listen to soft music as you get centered, grounded, and open yourself up for this healing process.

Step 2: Tune in to your heart and set the intention, to be honest with yourself as you discover what is holding you back. But also set the intention to do this healing work from a non-judgmental space.

Step 3: Start writing the sentence “I forgive myself for….”. Start every sentence with these words and allow yourself to feel what is asking to be released. Write everything down that is ready to be let go of. If you have a difficult time to get started, take a moment to drop back into your heart and open yourself up to this deep healing. As you start writing, emotions will surface, you may become very emotional, which is perfectly normal. Let the emotions rise to the surface but do not try to analyze, instead let it come up and let it go. With each sentence you write, allow yourself to forgive the feeling, the pain, the emotion, the blame, and everything else that comes to the surface. This process is about letting go and setting yourself free. Write until you feel complete for the time being.

This is a powerful process that can be repeated as often as you feel called to. When life happens and something occurs in your life that causes you to feel angry, frustrated or out of it, it is best to go back to doing some forgiveness work as you do not want to hold on to emotions that could affect you in the long run.

There are a few key things to remember as you embrace this forgiveness work.

-       Be open and honest with yourself. This is a powerful process of setting yourself free from the ties of the past. But in order to set yourself free, you must first uncover the things that are ready to be released. You must be honest with yourself, and open to discovering what is going on beneath the surface. Only when you are open and honest with yourself, will you discover the things that have been holding you back.

-       Don’t judge yourself. As you start discovering what is going on beneath the surface, you most likely will discover things that are not very pleasant, you may feel the desire to belittle yourself for allowing this to happen or blame yourself for letting things happen as they did. However, the key to remember here is to never judge yourself. You did what you did because it was the best you could have done in the situation you were in. Also, everything happens for a reason, so why would you blame yourself for something that was meant to happen, just the way it did happen. This process is meant to set you free, to offer deep healing and releasing, if you would judge yourself, you may want to forgive yourself for that as well.

-       Allow yourself to feel the pain but do not hold on to it. As you do this healing work, you most likely will feel emotions coming to the surface, the key here is to let it come up but then let it go. It is coming up to be released. No analyzing, questioning or attention is needed. Simply let it go.

-       Be gentle and loving with yourself. This is just as important as not judging yourself. As you go through the healing process, a lot can come up, which makes it very important to take really good care of yourself afterward. Be gentle with yourself as you go through the healing process, love yourself for allowing yourself to forgive yourself.

-       Let it go and move forward. As you go through this healing process, the key is to not hold on to the things you are ready to forgive yourself. Once you have written your forgiveness statements, do not hold on to the story. Let it go and move forward. Whatever happened in the past, happened for a reason and when you are ready to release and let go, as well as forgive yourself and your involvement in the story, you ultimately set yourself free. There is no need to go back and analyze what has happened, to hold on to the story, because all this does is keeping the emotions attached to what has happened unable to move forward.

Doing this type of healing is a powerful process of taking back control over your life, your future, and your own happiness. So much happens to every single person, day in and day out, we face situations, experiences, and people who may trigger us to feel less than deserving, not worthy of having what we want, and it may not happen on a conscious level, but often it happens without us even knowing that we were being triggered.

By doing this forgiveness work, you stand in your own power, you take a stand for yourself, and you choose YOU instead of allowing your past to affect your every move.

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