How to heal your wounded self and discover the best version of yourself after a devastating breakup?

Breakup is the reflection of the act of cheating or lying or misunderstanding or abusive behavior or an alcoholic behavior in a marriage or love relationship. A storm of emotions starts to flow into your life in a destructive way when you experience a devastating breakup initiated by the person you love unconditionally. When you experience a devastating breakup in your relationship life, you start to feel like your life is over, and your perception about manifesting a vibrant relationship seems impossible. You need some time and space to deal with the emotional disaster caused by a devastating breakup. Never punish yourself and never jump into another relationship instantly after experiencing a breakup. The majority of people force themselves to jump into another relationship instantly to bridge their emotional gap, which is not the mature way to deal with the emotional storms. There are some action steps below which can help to heal your wounded self and discover the best version of yourself.

1. Detach yourself from your ex completely during the healing process. 

Whenever you experience a breakup, it means the relationship is over for that particular time period and you should work on your healing process. You need to have some time and space to work on yourself to heal your wounded self, which can help you to discover your self-identity faster. Never beg or plead instantly after experiencing a breakup; rather, you must focus on your personal well-being. If you force yourself to beg and plead your ex, you will attract more emotional hurt and disappointment into your physical experience.

Action steps: 

You must disconnect yourself from your ex instantly after experiencing a breakup in every way possible. Disconnecting from your ex completely means disconnecting yourself from your ex on all the social media platforms, deleting all the pictures of your ex from your mobile phone or laptop, throwing out or hiding all the physical gifts your ex gave you and erasing their mobile number instantly. When you see such things every day, it can remind you of your breakup and occupy your mind fully in a negative manner. The flood of emotions can destroy your life if you become occupied by your breakup memories or physical things given by your ex that exist around you. Once you detach yourself completely from your ex, you can be in a situation to focus on your personal well-being and discover your self-identity faster. 

There might be a different case scenario in such situations. Some might have kids together, some might work together or some might be staying together in the same home. In those cases, you just need to focus on your personal well-being instead of engaging in any deep conversation with your ex, whether it’s formal, intimate or kids related. If you have kids together, you have to set some boundaries while taking care of your kids together. You need to be very specific in such situations and never allow your ex to engage you in any kind of deep conversation. Never engage in a lengthy conversation, making excuses of your kids or professional work or anything else during the healing process. If you work together or live together, just be specific and professional instead of being emotional. You can’t heal your wounded self and discover your self-identity if you create mixed feelings during the healing process. 

2. Meditate every day to create positive harmony among your mind, body and soul. 

When you experience a breakup, the storms of emotions start to manufacture a huge amount of negative thoughts and negative energy. You can gain mastery over the storms of emotions, the negative chattering thoughts and the negative energy through a spiritual practice called meditation. When you practice meditation on a regular basis, you can let go of your negative past experiences and negative thoughts and cleanse yourself of negative energy. You must practice a simple meditation technique, which is a breathing technique. When you are disciplined about practicing it, you can connect with your spiritual self, which can guide you to make a wise, conscious decision. You can heal your wounded self faster, too, by practicing meditation every day. You can connect with your spiritual self when you meditate on a daily basis during the healing process, which is the root of discovering your authentic self.

3. Create a vision board relevant to healing your wounded self. 

The vision board will help you to stay focused on your healing process despite emotional hurt and countless distractions. This is the most powerful way to program your subconscious mind, which is negatively conditioned due to your breakup experience. You must design your vision board in a creative way that reflects your dream goals, which are to heal yourself and get back your self-identity. Actually healing your wounded self should be your first priority, and once you heal yourself, you can be magnetic and attract your deserving person into your life.

Action steps: 

Take your smiling picture and stick it on your vision board. Script your personal, professional, health and spiritual life-related goals to stick on your vision board. Write down positive, self-empowering and uplifting statements on a piece of paper to stick on your vision board. The images, positive words and positive statements should be very compelling to program your subconscious mind in a positive manner. Every word and statement should be written in a manifested form and in the present tense. A few examples are given below: “I am emotionally healed and I am living a happy and vibrant life.” “I love myself, accept myself and respect myself for who I am, being grateful.” “I let go of my negative past experiences, being grateful.” “I am happy and enjoying my own personal company.”

4. Practice visualization and positive affirmations for subconscious programming. 

Once you create your vision board with positive images and positive affirmative statements, it’s time to take action on it. Visualization and the positive affirmation technique are the best techniques for programming your subconscious mind, which is negatively conditioned due to your past breakup experience. Whenever you visualize yourself seeing your vision board then feel everything in a manifested form in advance without being judgmental. You must internalize every word, statement, and picture in a manifested form emotionally—then you can heal yourself and discover your self-identity faster. Your subconscious mind is like a miracle-creating powerhouse that must be positively programmed during the healing process. Your vivid visualization will help you to explore your destined version of life in advance, which can help to reprogram your subconscious mind effectively. Never allow your negative self-limiting beliefs to distract you while practicing this technique. You must practice this technique at least fives times a day. Practice visualization and positive affirmation before and after practicing the meditation.

5. Focus on personal, professional, health and spiritual growth-based activities. 

When you focus on personal, professional, health and spiritual development-based activities, there will be no room in your mind to be occupied by your negative thoughts or memories related to your breakup. When you are occupied by positive growth-based activities, you can raise your positive vibes to a higher dimension. You can heal your wounded self and discover your self-identity faster when you engage yourself with such positive development-based activities. The law of attraction works in an effective way once you become the best version of yourself.

Action steps: 

Focus on your dream relevant activities, take institutional/ academic courses for your positive growth, attend seminars and enroll in courses that can alter your quality of life and go to a place of worship as per your religious beliefs to experience inner peace. Join a physical fitness club for your health transformation and hear positive audio books to occupy your mind with positive thoughts. Your passionate and persistent action in the light of strong self-belief can make you more magnetic.

6. Do what makes you happy and enjoy your own company. 

Your personal well-being is the first priority for healing your wounded self and discovering your self-identity. You must do the things that can make you feel happy and vibrant all the time. Never criticize or belittle yourself; rather, treat yourself as the most precious person in your life. Go on a vacation, eat your favorite food, buy new dresses and celebrate the present moment to its fullest. Listen to the songs that touch your soul and engage you emotionally. If you get free time, visit a beach and naturally blessed locations where you can align with your spiritual self. You must spend your quality time being with your best friends or relatives who can reflect your soul and understand you; it can help you to heal your wounded self faster. 

You must focus yourself to keep yourself happy despite emotional storms. Your positive vibes of happiness can demagnetize all the negative energy that is occupying you mentally and emotionally. Whatever the circumstances or emotional storms in your life may be, you just need to enjoy your own company, being grateful. When you start to enjoy your own company, being happy, vibrant and grateful, it can help you to let go of your emotional hurt or negative memories faster. You are the responsible person of your life who should care about your personal well-being without being judgmental. You must love, accept and respect yourself for who you are, being grateful, during the healing process. You can attract a person who can enjoy your company once you enjoy your own company first.

7. Don’t engage with others instantly to bridge your emotional gap; rather, focus on your healing process first. 

When you experience a breakup, it’s normal to feel lonely, empty or alone, but it doesn’t mean you should jump instantly into a new relationship to bridge your emotional gap. You must focus on healing your wounded self without getting distracted by emotional storms during the healing process. You need to be consciously aware during the healing process, and you can gain mastery over your emotional storms with the proper level of awareness. If you engage with someone else privately during the healing process, you will never attract your deserving person into your physical experience. You will attract a person who can take advantage of you, hurt you and disappoint you, even more, when you work on a new relationship instantly without healing yourself first. The universe intelligence is always monitoring your thought vibes, and you must be aware of this fact during the healing process. 

9. Feed your mind with positive, motivational and spiritual books.

Whenever you feed your mind with positive, motivational, spiritual and healing-related books, including audio books, your mind will be occupied by only positive stuff. When you feed yourself with only positive mental nutrition, it will help to demagnetize all the negative thoughts. Your mind will have no space for the negative thoughts to chatter when you engage in listening to such positive growth-based materials. You can heal your wounded self and discover your self-identity faster when you feed your mind with positive mental growth-based materials. 

10. Make a gratitude list every day to be more magnetic. 

When you feel grateful for who you are, for what you have and for what you do, you can become more magnetic and attract more of what you are grateful for as per the law of attraction. You need to express your gratitude every day by making gratitude lists. You just need to express your gratitude regarding everything you experience throughout the day, which can help to raise your positive vibes to a higher frequency. In fact, a grateful attitude can connect you with the universe intelligence and lead to a huge positive transformation in your life. The attitude of gratitude has a higher level of healing energy to heal your wounded self. The best time for making your gratitude lists is before you sleep at night. You must feel every word and statement emotionally while making gratitude lists, which can help to channel yourself with the universe intelligence.

Note: When you practice these techniques being disciplined then you can heal your wounded self and discover the best version of yourself with ease. Once you are able to heal yourself and become the best version of yourself then you can be in a perfect situation to work on your new relationship by practicing the law of attraction.

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