How to manage feelings of helplessness 💪
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Your inner narrative shapes your world. What's the script you're living by?
It’s crucial to be aware of the story we tell ourselves because it holds incredible power over our mindset. Phrases like "HE made me mad," "THEY hurt my feelings," or "SHE'S holding me back" can become a repetitive mantra in our minds, leaving us feeling powerless and trapped within the confines of a victim mentality. I know because I've been there too.😩
But here’s the thing: Just as the stories we tell ourselves can keep us in a victim mindset, we possess the extraordinary ability to rewrite that narrative, transitioning into a Creator Mode — a far more empowering state of being.
It's important to clarify that when discussing the shift from victim to creator, I'm not referring to victims of violence. Victims of violence are not at fault, and their experiences are entirely different. Instead, I'm addressing those who perceive themselves as victims of circumstances they can change.
Embracing a Creator Mindset places you firmly in the driver's seat of your life. It means taking responsibility and decisive action. You actively seek solutions, transforming complaints into purposeful requests or well-thought-out plans. It's about charting a new, empowering path forward.
So, how do we make this switch a tangible reality in our daily lives? Here are a few practical examples:
Notice the shift? Challenge yourself to transform disempowering statements in a similar way, and maximize your approach with the techniques below:
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Quick Confidence Tips to Shift from Victim to Creator Mode:
As psychologist Martin Seligman teaches us, the antidote to "learned helplessness" is learned experimentation, optimism, and determination.
Remember, the power to choose – and create – what comes next is in your hands. Craft something extraordinary.
What area of your life could benefit from a shift into creator mode? What fresh narrative will empower this shift? Let's encourage and support one another by sharing in the comments below.
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1yThe scripts to rewrite the narrative from victim to creator are so practical! In my own life, I have found that my capacity to reframe my perspectives always relies on my ability to recognize when I'm getting caught up in a victim mentality... I really think this is easier said than done and is truly an ongoing practice of self-awareness. I'm training myself to notice when I'm feeling negative and to immediately ask myself, "what story am I creating about this situation?". It's only from that place to I can zoom out and use tools like these scripts, and honestly sometimes requires a trusted friend to hold space.
I truly appreciate this perspective! At Marizrific, we resonate with the concept of empowering individuals to shift from a victim mindset to being creators of their destiny. Our business aligns with this ideology, dedicating a portion of our profits to aid and empower survivors of domestic violence, striving to make a positive impact on their journey towards healing and independence.
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1yWow! This is great. I love the Seligman quote as it feels like it speaks to a generation of folks that just accept EVENTs for that they are and feel stuck. A great exercise to accept your feelings and thoughts and then move on by putting them somewhere (even in a box) so you are now ready to move on. Kind of like a meditation - acknowledge and accept. Hold off on the reaction. This way of processing may well help people to not only move on from the thoughts, but also to move on - into the Creator Mindset. Thanks for this it helped me to process!
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1yLove this
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1yThe overarching theme "we possess the extraordinary ability to rewrite that narrative" and the very relatable examples are brilliantly written. It makes it easier for one to think of ways to change their inner dialogue.