How to Set Boundaries at Work Without Damaging Relationships (E54)

Setting boundaries in the workplace can be a tricky balance. Many of us feel that saying “yes” to every request is necessary to maintain positive relationships. However, constantly overextending yourself can lead to burnout and resentment, especially when the kindness goes unreciprocated.

Here’s the common pattern: we say “yes” to things we don’t have the bandwidth for, just to keep others happy. And over time, this leads to feeling that workplace relationships are one-sided, leaving us drained and undervalued.

In my 21 Days to Get Unstuck Experience, I help people create empowering boundaries, and here’s one powerful tip you can use immediately: consider the last time you felt resentment toward a colleague or situation. That feeling was likely a signal that a boundary was needed.

Reframing Boundaries: They Foster Trust, Not Distance

Many people fear that boundaries will push others away or make them seem less approachable. But the truth is that boundaries actually build trust by creating clear expectations, making workplace relationships feel safer and more respectful. When you establish boundaries, you communicate your needs while also showing respect for the other person’s.

Let’s go through an example to see how this works in action:

Imagine a colleague asks you to join a last-minute project on a Friday evening. But you typically reserve Friday evenings for winding down or focusing on other priorities. Here’s a way to respond: “I usually reserve Friday evenings for existing priorities, but I’d be happy to help if we can connect earlier in the week. Does Tuesday work for you?” This response lets you set a clear boundary and maintain a positive working relationship.

Recognizing When Boundaries Are Needed

If you find that setting boundaries is challenging, start by recognizing when it’s necessary. Feelings of stress, frustration, or resentment often point to areas where you may need to draw a line. Establishing boundaries is about ensuring your own well-being while staying committed to your responsibilities.

So, here’s a gentle nudge: Boundaries aren’t about saying “no” to people; they’re about saying “yes” to a healthier, more balanced way of working.

If you’re ready to explore boundary-setting and need some guidance, comment BOUNDARY below, and I’ll share five thoughtful scripts for saying “no” in various workplace scenarios—from turning down additional responsibilities to navigating last-minute requests—all while preserving your professional relationships.

Taking small steps to set boundaries can lead to more fulfilling and balanced work relationships, allowing you to contribute with greater energy and clarity.

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