How to tell if you're ready for a new Recovery Coach

by: Alex Sturman, (PCC) - Alex serves as the Principal Coach and Managing Director of Peer Visioning, a private wellbeing coaching provider with a mission to inspire creativity to ignite positive transformation. He welcomes new connections and is available to support the professional development of living and learned experience workforce in coaching and professional supervision. To get in touch please call +61 0410 122 954 or email hello@peervisioning.com.au

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A good personal recovery coach possesses several key qualities that enable them to effectively support and guide individuals on their journey to recovery. These qualities include empathy, patience, strong communication skills, a deep understanding of the recovery principles and how to guide others through a process of recovery growth. A great coach will listen without judgment, provide constructive feedback, and offer encouragement and motivation. They should also be adaptable, tailoring their approach to meet the unique needs and goals of each person they work with.

At times, despite your efforts in finding a coach that resonates with you, there might be a mismatch or you may outgrow your current coach. In such situations, it could be the right time to consider exploring new coaching options.

To determine if you might consider seeking out a new coach, you might consider the following seven signs:

1. Your current coach can’t explain personal recovery principles: Recovery is a deeply personal journey that varies from one individual to another. Each person’s path to recovery is unique, influenced by their experiences, beliefs, and personal strengths. While a coach can provide guidance, support, and resources, the true essence of recovery lies within oneself. It’s about understanding your own needs, setting realistic goals, and finding the motivation and resilience to overcome challenges. Recovery is not a one-size-fits-all process; it’s a personalised journey of growth and healing. If your coach doesn’t understand and can’t explain why hope, meaning, purpose, accountability, and identity are vital to a recovery journey, it may be time to find a coach who does.

2. Your current coach only focuses on problems: Coaches shouldn’t back away from challenges, but their role isn’t to just identify and discuss problems either. Master Certified Coach Marcia Reynolds rightly states that coaches should “coach the person, not the problems.” By focusing only on the problems you might be facing the coach may not support you to create greater perspective and understanding of yourself, which is the real purpose of coaching. Instead, effective coaching involves guiding individuals to uncover their own strengths, values, and potential, facilitating a deeper self-awareness and personal growth. This holistic approach empowers clients to navigate their challenges with greater resilience and confidence. By fostering an environment of trust and open communication, coaches can help clients tap into their inner resources, enabling them to find solutions that align with their authentic selves. Ultimately, the true essence of coaching lies in nurturing the whole person, encouraging them to thrive not just in their current circumstances but in all aspects of their lives. Cultivating the ability to coach people rather than the problems people have takes experience and practice. If your coach only seems to focus on what’s not going right, it may be time to find a coach who can coach you, not just your problems.

3. Your current coach excludes you from communications: NDIS Psychosocial Recovery Coaching is all about capacity building. By excluding you from communications including email and phone calls, the coach may not be supporting you as best they could to build your own capacity to speak on your own behalf and navigate the system and supports you receive. Also, not including a person with disability in communications with others, strikes at the heart of “nothing about us without us.” There is a difference between directing your recovery coach to send an email on your behalf (and then leaving you out of that email) or simply discussing your circumstances with others without your knowledge or immediate consent. A psychosocial recovery coach should always include clients in emails. This produces transparency and improves trusting professional relationships.

4. Your current coach has poor follow through: Poor follow through isn’t always an indication that a coach isn’t a good coach, but it could be a warning sign that the coach is working with too many clients. It can also be that there has been unclear establishment of what the coaches role will be as they support you. Some participants prefer to take a more leading role, using the coach as a backstop and someone who exclusively provides support around goal identification and maintenance. Other participants prefer a more hands on coach. If you’re someone who wants a more hands on recovery coach and you have found that you are working with a more hands off coach, talk with them about reestablishing the coaching agreement. If you still aren’t getting the follow through you are seeking, it may be time to talk with other coaches. Remember though, rescuing is not recovery. So your coach is not there to put out burning bushes, rather they are then to help you develop the skills to put them out yourself.

5. Your current coach doesn't seem to support your goals: The role of a coach isn’t to judge. Instead, a coach should provide guidance, encouragement, and constructive feedback to help you navigate your journey. They should be a source of inspiration and a catalyst for your growth, not a hindrance. The lack of progress can be caused by a number of influencers, but your coaches lack of support shouldn’t be one of them. If you aren't seeing any improvement or progression towards your goals, it might be time to reassess the coaching relationship. Effective coaching should lead to tangible results and personal development. Ultimately, you are responsible for your goal progression, not your coach. Remember, coaching is a partnership designed to empower you and unlock your potential. It's important to find someone who aligns with your values and aspirations, and who genuinely cares about your success.

6. Your current coaches coaching style negatively impacts your wellbeing: Your coach should positively contribute to your mental and emotional well-being. If interactions with your coach are causing stress, anxiety, or other negative feelings, it might be time to seek a new one. If your interactions with your coach leave you feeling exhausted or demotivated, it's a clear sign that the relationship isn't beneficial. A good coach should uplift you, helping you to see challenges as opportunities and to find the strength within yourself to overcome them.

7. Loss of trust in your current coach: Trust is fundamental in any coaching relationship. If you feel that trust has been broken, it might be difficult to move forward productively. Open communication is key in such situations. It is important to address the issue directly with your coach, expressing your concerns and feelings honestly yet respectfully. Sometimes, misunderstandings or miscommunications can be resolved through a candid conversation, helping to rebuild the trust that is essential for a successful coaching relationship. However, if the trust breach is severe or irreparable, it may be necessary to consider finding a new coach with whom you can establish a more solid foundation. Remember, a good coaching relationship should empower you, provide support, and foster growth, and trust is the cornerstone that makes all of this possible. Reflect on what led to the breakdown of trust and take those lessons into future relationships. Trust can be fragile, but with mutual respect, open dialogue, and a commitment to understanding each other, it can be nurtured and restored.

In closing, it's important to remember, the right coach can make a significant difference in your recovery journey, so it's essential to find someone who truly understands and supports you.

To learn more about Peer Visioning coaching services and to book a free coaching discovery session, visit our website: peervisioning.com.au or call +61 0410 122 954