How to transform your guilt triggers

How did you spend your last weekend?

Did you relax?

Did you have some really lovely downtime and chill?

Or were you super active and busy?

Most of all, how do you FEEL about the way you spent those days?

Did you spend them shoulding all over yourself, and not feeling satisfied?

Here's a few examples

I should mow the lawns

I should be catching up with my family (or ring Mum, sorry Mum)...

I should go for a run

I should be writing that report, etc etc...

And then you feel guilty about the fact that you put your feet up and did something else!

Guilt is the enemy of motivation

Guilt is a really terrible way to create the energy that you need to get sh*t done!

What's more, guilt causes stress, and not in a good way (yup, a little of the right stress can be a good thing).

Guilt also skews your decision making. That's another black mark for using guilt as a motivator.

What's the solution?

You don't have to feel guilt!

REMOVE guilt from the equation.

(I can hear the but-but-but from here.)

Here's a few strategies to help you transform shoulding and guilt into something you CAN use!

Ask yourself a few tough questions

1. Is this task really important?
2. Why do I think this thing is important?
3. Who does this really serve?
4. What is it about not doing this that's making me feel guilty?

Now, re-frame!

Now you can reframe the answers that are aligned with what you really want and what completing a task will give you.

The transformation is into motivators that energise, excite and satisfy you.

• I'm doing the lawns because I love the way the garden looks when they're done!
• I'll ring Mum because I can tell her about her grandkids this week
• I'll go for a run because even though the first 5 minutes suck, then I feel great
• I'll write that report because the team have done brilliant work, and I'm really excited about what's next

(these are my first drafts on reasons that may transform your motivation. You'll want to find ones that work for you. If the first one isn't a goer, find another!)

A final thought

You never need to feel guilty about putting your feet up or indulging in an activity that you enjoy!

As long as it's conscious and purposeful activity that you're doing for a good reason, having downtime in any form is valuable.

That said, I'm done for the day - def time to put my feet up for a bit!

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Clear-headed action and stepping-up!

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