I am a Flower 🌺 on the Wall of life...

He sits patiently waiting checking his watch, shifting his body and he remains patiently calm each week.

Each week he sits there, each time with a gift ready to shower her with his language of love.

Not 10 or 30 minutes late, over an hour late and even longer.

I get to observe the lives of others, as I sit quietly sipping my coffee and creative heart musings. I am the voyeur with a wealth of erotic and relationship wisdom. I am the flower on the wall of life, unapologetic in design and at peace in my aloneness with the ever changing scenes.

I share a warm smile, an understanding and he shares his story. He asks are the flowers okay? He questions if they are good enough and starts to worry that he made the wrong choice. He asks me to watch his table and drink and he returns to the flower shop to return with another bunch.

He asks, do these look better? I reply, they both look great and I am sure your beautiful lady will love them and what a loving gesture to begin your date.

She's getting her hair done.

Last week, she had an appointment and she arrived 2-hours later, the day you saw me in the pouring rain.

She must be an amazing woman, I say and laughing, 'her hair better look amazing to be late again.'

He softens and feels heard and warms.

I travel 60kms to see her at the weekend. I adore her he says, and I want to make it special for her. I can feel his gnawing pain. He continues to open, She has never had special. I don't want to let her down as she has been hurt before.

I sit and say nothing and smile. He asks what I do.

I work with women to assist heal trauma and embrace her unapologetic sensual embodiment. I also work with couples in Relational Coaching.

We need to work with you.

Yes, you both do.

I see a lady walk round the corner, I smile at her and say, you must be......(her name) and your hair looks stunning.

She smiles nervously, I feel her fear, I smile and turn away to respect their intimate space.

I can sense the tension in the air and her urgency to leave. I write my information down to give in passing and something holds me back, it's not the right timing. There will be another time and there is no urgency. My professional business cards are in the mail and life is a dance.

They walk past I gaze curiously as the flower on the wall in their passing direction. I meet the bottom of my coffee cup, a final aroma of my drink and see him gaze lovingly in her direction. This makes me smile to observe 'new love', he reaches around to hold her and pull her in close and she pushes him away. I see him tense and yet his rejection mirrored by her own inner pain. Both are hurting and unaware how to reach one another within the haze.

Why do I share this?

It is mostly men that follow my work as they feel seen heard and understood. More women are beginning to warm to me, I have had to grow as there is no force with this work and it begins with an invitation of curiosity.

Many men are over-compensating, over compromising and not valuing their time or worth. Many women are playing the same game and both a longing to feel loved.

They are desperate to FEEL LOVE and are doing everything they can. One met by prickliness over perhaps, overbearing 'needy' warmth. He has become the 'people pleaser' that is feeding the PAIN underneath, and he is not expressing how he feels.

He wants to love her and she is in self-protect mode as she is afraid of being hurt. They have attracted one another as they are both playing the same unconscious game.

BOTH are yet to fully LOVE THEMSELVES.

Both live in a world of unworthiness, helplessness and hopelessness, clutching at straws and catching the rays of a few drops of connection and passion.

Yes, both will benefit from working with me. I get results and I don't believe in therapy for a year!

This begins with each individual and not making more problems that will feel over whelming and the self-protective armour around the heart KICK IN.

Both have a fear of Rejection and Abandonment.

This is where most are at, lost in a world of social politeness and bleeding inside with hearts locked away as to feel love is scary and a fear of being hurt or let down again.

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With Loving Guidance,

Zoe-Anna

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