I Don't Give A ****
Jaipal Reddy Aenugu CISSP
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We, Indians are really good at believing 'What others will think of me?' or maybe it's universal. I don't know but far too long I have had this challenge and I still struggle with it. My mind lingers around what others are thinking of me. My parents used to say, 'Don't do this, others will think you are rude', 'If you do that, others will think this', etc... Maybe it was that and I have been trying to change.
I have observed many great people and they always said 'Don't pay attention to what others think of you' and they are right. If these guys paid attention they wouldn't have achieved what they did. End of last year I went to an Awards Dinner in Glasgow and I met some great Scottish entrepreneurs there. At the after party, I was speaking to CEO of a large company [met him first time] and the person didn't give a single f*ck about who is around. He was swearing, shouting, laughing and having fun. I absolutely never expected a CEO to talk like that and I loved it! He looked like a normal person, was being himself, he wasn't born with magical powers or anything. I can be like him. I will be myself and build a great business. I always delivered my best when I didn't try to impress and was being myself.
Bottomline is Unless you are someone that really cares about me I am not going to give a single f*ck about what you think of me. Thank you very much!
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7yVery brave post! I've found that some people act careless and they justify it as being honest. Honesty is great but when I find myself in a situation in which I'm tempted to be myself or at least utterly honest, I always wonder what my real intention is and how my act of honesty will help. If my intention is not clear and it's not helping the other person, then there is red light for me. Be yourself and be honest as much as you can, but watch your intentions!
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7yIt is a very brave post. I think social media is changing our society. As a result of those changes, it is becoming less important/ or more risky to be who we truly are; especially in the public space. In a way, we have to be like politicians, who really care much more about how they are being perceived. Personally, I have the same dilemma about being perceived and being true self. And yes!.. I would be much more successful, if I didn't give a sh*t!
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7yInteresting post! There's probably a fine line between being yourself completely and being obnoxious, acting without self awareness. The challenge is always to balance that. I also struggle with worrying too much about what people think. It's an issue for me because it can discourage me from taking risks and following my heart. It's my upbringing - what people thought mattered a lot. Now, I do a 3 way test: Am I following what I truly believe? This person who thinks whatever of me, are they relatively insignificant to my current and future life? Have I pursued my dreams with integrity and respect for others? If yes to all, I ignore the voice and press on with my dreams. All the best, Jai!