The Importance of Your Sense of Self
Once, when I was around 17 years old, I was sitting in a car with a friend of mine, waiting for another group of kids. My friend was very wealthy and by this age had already inherited several million dollars–and he was very arrogant about this. In addition, he had been raised to think very highly of himself. He seemed to believe he had done the absolute best in everything he did. Even though he was not a great student, he reasoned that this did not matter, since the best students would one day be working for him. He had an incredible level of self-confidence, and people around him could never shake this, even if they tried. He had been beaten up at least a few times that I could remember, but he never seemed to care. His tremendous sense of self was internal to him and was unwavering. Everyone who knew this particular guy thought he would one day be extremely successful. His self-belief set him apart on so many levels from all other kids.
As we sat there in the car, we discussed our futures. He had big plans for himself, which included heading an investment bank in New York, going to a major business school, and generally taking on the world. When it came time for me to share my plans for the future, I still remember quite well what I said:
“I will be very happy if I get a three-bedroom house in a nice neighborhood and can at least afford to travel once in a while,” I told him. “I really hope I can get a decent job when I get out of college.”
“It’s tough out there, but I am sure you will manage to get something,” he said.
I never forgot this particular conversation because at that time in my life this was all I expected for myself:
- I thought my biggest challenge would be finding a job when I got out of college.
- I never thought I would be an attorney.
- I never thought I would even go to a good college.
- I never thought I would leave Detroit–and I never really had big plans for myself.
My sense of who I was and what I could achieve was simply not at a high level. At some point, however, based on encouragement from my father, teachers, and others, I began to develop a stronger sense of self–a sense of self that encouraged me to aim high in my life and to believe that I was capable of incredible things. Over time, this sense of self began to stick, and it continued to grow for me. A strong sense of self is the most important possible thing you can possess, and developing a strong sense of self will change your life.
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4yI have often, in my professional and personal life, struggled with self confidence - which I believe is a component of what you are referring to as sense of self. I recently found myself in a very negative professional situation that made me question my value and the import of my work/input. I really struggled with my sense of self. Being able to extract myself from that situation - and then look at it from the other side - has been a very empowering experience and I have been able to say, not only was I valuable, and not only did I do important work, but those that did not recognize it were foolish. I might be starting to find my own sense of self that others have been trying to instill in me for years - I guess I just needed the right experience to put things into perspective.