Inspirational Insights into Conscious Flow - 6th Issue
In this newsletter “Inspirational Insights into Conscious Flow,” you will be introduced to the following topics
HEALING THROUGH TRAUMA
Trauma happens to everybody individually and collectively. We all carry a backlog of pain that has never been heard or received because we miss a culture, a narrative that helps us share and hold space for each other's deepest wounds. In our Western World, we perceive the existence of trauma as weakness, yet we wonder why we have such a high incidence of mental illness?
With Family Constellations, we hold the vision of a society where we can acknowledge the truth about the shame and pain of our unmet needs that live quietly but widely among all of us.
Trauma cannot always be conquered or fixed, but it can be held and loved in hurt.
Within the work of Family Constellations, we hope to make a small step towards creating a more supportive culture where we can.
We don't have to resist our challenges and our pains.
We don't need to live in the dark.
We can live in a world where vulnerability can be seen as healthy and encouraged with physical and mental health are not separate, but they are one.
The legacy of trauma is multi-generational. It hits some people much more severely than others. Still, it's impossible to heal our society before fully acknowledging the trauma that we perpetrated on each other, those who suffered before us, and that infuses our culture.
Healing cannot begin without acknowledging what has happened.
As we work our way through trauma, as we resolve the pain, we become friends with our own trauma, and as we learn from it, it bestows enormous wisdom about the nature of the world the nature of human nature, and ourselves, our connections or relationships and the world that we live in. There's tremendous wisdom that trauma can teach us.
I have an idea that we can create a more equal and compassionate trauma-informed society together.
Trauma is a Greek word for wounding. So, trauma is a wound.
Trauma is not what happens to you.
It's what happens inside you as a result of what happened to you.
Sexual abuse, neglect or the war tragedy is not the trauma.
That's the traumatic event that induces the trauma. So the trauma is the wound that you sustain. That's an important distinction to gain understanding.
With traumatic impacts, people get disconnected from their feelings. Now they don't know Joy anymore, and now they have to do drugs to feel alive, for example, but that disconnection from feeling that wisdom, because it happened at a time when the feeling that the child would have experienced would have been unbearable for them.
This connection is the body's wisdom.
Now that creates the traumatic impact; we have to work our way back from disconnecting to feeling again. When we're ready, but rather than resenting it, we have to bow to the body's wisdom is giving us that capacity actually to shut down our emotions. To experience the pain would have been unendurable. So, there are two aspects of the wisdom of the law of trauma. One is what we can learn from it, but the other is, firstly, there is always a form of protection.
I'm not talking about the traumatic event is terrible. I'm talking about the body's protection against the emotional impact when that impact is unbearable to the child.
That is the wisdom of trauma.
Wisdom is part of our healing journey.
What is meant by healing?
Healing is to restore the original movement of Life.
What is the original movement of Life?
Life is the sacred presence of consciousness within the power of grace, or as I would like to see it - an unconditional love that exists even in the deepest of painful experiences.
Healing is the power of grace that supports the restoration of the original movement of Life and acknowledges the sacred presence of consciousness.
The Trauma we share
We, at HealingPoint Constellations, get together monthly and discuss our learnings from the systemic field. We talk about everyday thoughts that surround us in the here and the now. It is a safe space for sharing and caring. As we share, we become aware of similar traumatic experiences, which is also present in our world.
Yes, it is time to acknowledge that we require individual healing on this path, even when working in a healing modality. The more I become aware of the conversation, the more I become aware of the expansion of all that exists in the generations previous to ours. We collectively become aware that trauma is an experience of pain as a perception of right or wrongdoing.
A little girl whose parents abuse is not aware of the abuse per se. For her, it is her everyday world. For her, it is all she knows and adjusts to that. Yes, she feels the pain of the punishment and sets about creating behaviour patterns that lessen further assault situations. She learns coping mechanisms, and life continues until she reaches a high-level executive status. She has arrived in a world far from childhood abuse. Yet, in the freedom she has created for herself, she finds herself torn and tormented. Her relationships don’t work. She feels lonely and isolated.
The childhood trauma that she has overcome with all her achievements to prove has caught up with her.
Why?
The trauma experienced as abuse, even without conscious recognition of abuse, exists in the subconscious. The body has kept the little girl alive. She has survived by building herself up with a series of beliefs and vows.
We cannot outrun our early childhood experiences.
Wait!
There is more.
Let’s take a closer look. Why was the little girl subjected to the abuse? Surely adults should know better?
Surely parents should want to protect their children and not harm them?
What is wrong here?
What if the parent who harms their little girl is not even aware of the abuse they put on their child? What if the parent knows no better? If a parent does not know any better, their perception is that they are doing what they are doing, even if it is abusive, because they love their child.
I know that I have grown up in a home with belief systems that were my truth. I did not question them. Only when I came in contact with different belief systems did I dare to ask. At first, the belief system that I grew up with was the only correct perspective. Eventually, I allowed the possibility of different truths to filter through, which allowed my views to change.
Today I realise that my parents loved me, and the abuse was an expression of their love as distorted as it may be. The perspective and beliefs of that time were our worlds. The constructed beliefs protect our survival. It is what my parents knew and thought was best for all of us.
Today I can question those beliefs.
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Why did they come into existence?
How did they come into existence?
Whom did those beliefs serve best?
These are the questions we ask when we explore the generational trauma in a family system. Soon we learn that whatever hurts us today is a direct result of the pain patterns in a family system.
Does it right the abuse the little girl experienced? No!
Pre-existing patterns of abuse allow her to understand and have compassion for her actions and reactions to the abuse. It also allows her to have an understanding of those who experienced the pain pattern that pre-existed her life.
Life is sacred!
The experience of trauma exposes the sacredness of all of life as it exists!
HealingPoint Constellations is hosting an On-line Workshop for you to step away from your fears on Sunday 24 April.
We look forward to journeying with you while letting go of your most debilitating fears.
HealingPoint is hosting FREE Family & Systemic Constellations Webinar.
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Breathing Space
Yes, life is overwhelming at times. Instead of building only resilience, one coping mechanism upon another, we have taken a journey into creating some breathing space.
Instead of confronting the mind’s rumour mill with logic and ‘positive thinking’ it makes far more sense to step outside the endless cycle and just watch the thoughts unfold in all their fevered beauty. But this can be difficult. If you look closely at the ‘rumours’ that start washing around the mind when you feel stressed, you’ll see how much a part of you they really appear to be. They carry quite a punch and may be central to what you believe about yourself and the situation in which you find yourself.
We are practising some interesting options: -
Mindfulness is not about detachment.
In short, mindful acceptance gives us choices.
I have put together an Eight Day Breathing Space Program for you to access for >> FREE Eight Day Breathing Space Program
24 April 2022 - Fears & Letting Go
Online
9:00 am - 3:00 pm
The world is in a state of chaos. What are your fears that bring your world into a state of chaos?
What are the entanglements in the systems that you belong to that hold beliefs that drive fears?
Let’s uncover!
This is a group workshop.
The group participation supports you in setting up your Constellation, as you participate for other members in the group to set up their Constellation. Healing, insights, and learning are valuable gifts that you take away from each other’s Constellation.
If you would not like a constellation set up for you, please select the Observer option.
Different monthly themes allow creating the opportunity to explore questions and different constellation movements.
Learning and knowing are different from experience. The insights you gain from these workshops will give you the confidence to facilitate transformational shifts within yourself as well as when working with your clients.
You will receive the Zoom link upon booking.
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