It’s Outside The Four Walls

“Only you set the perimeters of your comfort zone and only you are able to start an expansion project to construct your dream home.” 

- Jared Yellin

Think of your life as a house…

The walls represent your comfort zone…

Are you living in a 22,000 square foot mansion or a 500 square foot studio apartment?

Default fear is a plague…

It looks and sounds like this…

I can’t...

I won’t...

I shouldn’t...

I’m scared…

I can promise you this…

NO ONE who has done anything remarkable in life has ever defaulted to fear.

And I mean EVER…

This does not mean there are not moments of doubt or even moments of fear but those moments don’t happen by default or immediately.

They happen when the person, who is doing something remarkable, is deep in thought of their impact and the universe is just testing them to ensure they are ready for what they are about to step into.

BUT NEVER do they default to FEAR which leads me to a VERY important question…

WHY DO YOU?

WHY do you default to FEAR?

WHY do you default to DOUBT?

WHY do you default to CAN’T?

It’s disturbing thinking about the tiny homes that nearly everyone operates in…

These tiny homes keep your life small…

These tiny homes have no space for your vision…

These tiny homes create ZERO impact…

And here’s why I’m confused…

WHY live in a tiny home when you can experience the luxury, excitement, and freedom of a freakin mansion?

Listen, if you think I am being materialistic with this statement, you are not reading the message, and instead you are focused on the words, because when you UPGRADE your living situation, you will radically transform your life.

Because your comfort zone will dictate your actual comfort in life…

Read this again please and then I will explain…

Your comfort zone will dictate your actual comfort in life…

People with the most stringent and tightest comfort zone are actually living an extremely uncomfortable existence - ironic right?!

And on the other hand, people with no comfort zone are living comfortably because they have no barriers to the experiences they will immerse themselves in both personally and professionally.

But here’s the craziest part…

Comfort zone is not a learned skill…

Comfort zone is not in your DNA…

Comfort zone is not controlled by anyone other than you…

Your comfort zone is 100% a decision you make and initially - as you expand - you will feel extreme discomfort which is why most retreat backwards quickly - but if you are tired of being like MOST people who don’t accomplish their goals, dreams, and aspirations then I highly recommend that you push through discomfort and move into your freakin mansion!

400 lbs And An Unexpected Marathon Was Discomfort, But It Led Me To A Bigger Mansion!

I used to be a MANIAC in the gym…

Pushing weight that no human should…

Hours and hours a day of grinding…

Experiencing muscle fatigue 10+ times a workout…

By no means do I think what I did to my body was healthy, but what it did to my mind was needed…

The gym literally moved me into a mansion and I will never forget the day when I got the keys…

It was on eve of Thanksgiving in 2013 and it was max out day on the incline bench.

I told my workout buddy - put on 400 lbs.

He said, “No way - that’s insane Jared.”

As you probably know, when my mind is made up, it’s made up so within ten minutes I was at the bench, focusing my intention, zoning in and getting ready to throw 400 lbs off my chest.

5 seconds later - I did it!

The amount of physical discomfort was insane and the amount of emotional doubt was paralyzing - but I fought through it and the perimeter of my comfort zone expanded.

 Fast forward 5 months, and I was scheduled to run 12-miles for my marathon preparation.

I hit the road and felt solid…

And when I got to mile 12, I thought to myself, why not push it and complete the marathon that day.

Once again - this is not a recommended physical activity, but it was a required emotional one.

2+ hours later - my impromptu marathon was completed (by myself) and my comfort zone expanded once again.

I am giving these two INSANE physical examples because if I were to use examples of myself as an entrepreneur, it would be more difficult to relate with, but when you hear people doing something that defies all odds physically, it gets your attention. 

Now It’s Your Turn

I’m certain that your default doubt shows up more than your default LET’S GO!

I’m certain that your default fear shows up more than LET’S ROCK!

I’m certain that your default I can’t shows up more than I GOT THIS!

And I’m certain that you are living in a house that is “comfortable” and actually making you uncomfortable because you know there is something deep inside that yearns to create impact and your false sense of comfort is the reason it will never emerge.

UNTIL NOW…

I said this before and I need to repeat this again…

Comfort zone is not a learned skill…

Comfort zone is not in your DNA…

Comfort zone is not controlled by anyone other than you…

There is no book, seminar, course, coach or anything that can expand your perimeter of your comfort zone besides for you.

This article won’t do it…

I can’t do it…

And I promise you that your therapist won’t be able to do it…

And for better or for worse - only YOU can expand the walls.

Here’s how…

You take absurd action.

Let me say this again because it almost sounds too simple, yet, it’s why you are not where you want to be…

You must take absurd action…

Like quit your freakin dead end job…

End that horrific marriage…

Drop the twinkie that keeps you fat…

Cut ties with the person who is bringing you down…

Launch your idea into the world…

Say I love you to the person who you have held back from…

Go on an adventure to another country…

And whatever it is for you…

Just DO IT - take the absurd action and when your default FEAR, DOUBT, I CAN’T shows up - deflect it and be comfortable in your discomfort until your discomfort becomes comfortable and then do it all over again.

I have reached a point where I yearn for discomfort…

I seek it out…

I do things to create it…

Because I KNOW this is the only way I can grow, expand, and impact on a bigger level.

But don’t compare yourself to me - just DO YOU.

DO YOU and take an absurd action ASAP!

This will condition your mind, body, spirit, soul, bank account, family, advisors, partners, etc. to the real YOU - the one who is on a mission to knock down walls of your tiny home and step into your 34,000 square foot mansion which you will eventually renovate and knock down walls once again. 

You are the architect…

You are the general contractor…

You are the visionary of your mansion…

Just don’t allow yourself to accept default doubt and settle for “comfort” when you know that the comfort you have settled for is actually making you even more uncomfortable since your vision is WAYYYYYYYY beyond those walls…

As always - you got this - I am here for you!

Live with Intention,

JY