The Journey Back to Your True Self: A Homecoming

There often comes a moment in life when you realise that you’ve been living someone else’s version of you. You’ve been carrying the weight of expectations, playing roles that don’t fit, and chasing external approval that never quite fills the void inside.

Maybe you’ve achieved a lot. Built a life others admire. But deep down, there’s still that gnawing feeling... Who am I underneath it all?

For so long, we live in a way that feels disconnected—like we’re strangers to ourselves. We believe that happiness is something we’ll find outside of us. We think the perfect relationship, the dream career, the accolades will finally make us feel whole.

But here’s the truth: Nothing external can give you what you’re searching for internally.

At some point, you wake up to the realisation that you’ve moved so far away from your truth that you don’t even recognise yourself anymore. You’ve been operating from the level of Life Happens For Me, where you’ve taken responsibility for your life, worked on yourself, and maybe done the personal development. You’re no longer in victimhood—you’ve embraced empowerment. But here’s the thing—it still feels hard. You’re still pushing, striving, hustling. You’ve done “the work” but something is still missing. Life feels like an endless series of actions you need to control, tweak, and manage.

I see this so often in the women I work with. They’ve done so much, achieved so much, but they’re stuck at the level of Life Happens For Me (nothing wrong with this). They believe that with enough effort, enough personal growth, they can shape their reality. But deep down, they’re still seeking something more—something that can’t be solved by more striving, more success, or more control. Its not at this level that they will find a deeper sense of peace, joy and fulfilment .

This is where the shift to Life Happens Through Me begins.

When you move into Life Happens Through Me, everything changes. It’s no longer about controlling the outcomes, hustling for your worth, or trying to prove yourself. You stop trying to make life happen. Instead, you align with your heart, your intuition, and your highest self, and you allow life to flow through you.

It’s not about sitting back and letting life happen—it’s about co-creating with life. It’s about taking aligned action, trusting in the flow of divine timing, and knowing that what’s meant for you will come when you are fully in alignment with your truth.

You’ll have to shed the layers of who you thought you had to be. The masks you wore to fit in, to please others, to feel safe. The strong one. The achiever. The perfectionist. All those roles that once served you, but now weigh you down.

This journey isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about returning to who you’ve always been. It’s about remembering the truth of who you are beneath the noise, beneath the stories you’ve been telling yourself for years.

It’s about letting go of the mind’s grip and dropping into your heart—into your body—where your true self resides.

And when you do, you’ll realise that you don’t need to prove yourself anymore. You’ll stop seeking validation from others because you’ll finally understand that you are enough.

This is the homecoming. The return to your authentic self. The place where you don’t have to hustle for your worth because your worth is inherent.

You won’t be afraid of being seen for who you really are—vulnerable, real, imperfect. You’ll be deeply connected to your heart’s desires, no longer operating from fear or survival, but from love and truth.

This is the journey of moving from Life Happens For Me to Life Happens Through Me. It’s not about fixing yourself—it’s about freeing yourself. It’s about trusting yourself deeply, about standing fully in your power and living from that place of alignment.

So where are you on this journey? What would it feel like to stop striving and start allowing life to flow through you? 🌿

This is where you are operating from the consciousness that life happens through me