Let's Talk Ghosting

Dearest Linked In reader

It's the 1st October and the spookiest month of the year. With the weather on the turn and the leaves falling from the trees, I am hearing mysterious rumours of a lack of manners in this fair land. I'm wondering if our professional society has also decided on a permanent transformation this season.

From conversations I've recently had it appears ghosting seems to have become a thing and it's not fun for anyone.

For clarity, here's some examples:

Applying for a job and never hearing back - just think about the hours someone has put in to that application.

Sending a message and just zero reply. Or even worse, gathering enthusiasm and then nothing.

As someone who has worked for 30 years I have always tried to reply and get back to people. It's just polite. Even if it's a 'really sorry, no' or a 'just to let you know I've got your message, but a bit busy' reply.

Everyday I'm bombarded with memes on linked in from clearly busy people....of 'you must go for it to be your better self' or sit and think today could be the day' or look at this pancake...what does it tell you' [hence the photo of a pancake - let me know if you want the recipe - it's healthy].

There's plenty of time to post, but clearly no time to reply.

Key Takeaway: 'it's ok to say no'

My message of the day is remember it's ok to say 'no'. If someone sends a message out of the blue, you can be polite and just say 'not now'.

That person may have taken so much courage to contact you. They may have thought long and hard about how to craft the message.

The world is chaotic... let's be a nice ghost and not a non existent one.

ps - If I do send you a message you can just say 'thanks, but no thanks'.

pps - if I have ever ghosted you - sorry.