Living life in your own way

There would always be a time lag between your thoughts and its implementation. We have put too many things on our checklist. Everything cannot be done at a time. Sometimes we do not have money , sometimes time and sometimes both. But there are people who have both but still unhappy with their life.If you look out carefully , every point on your checklist is related to happiness.Yes. Ultimately everyone aims for happiness and inner peace. We associate materialistic things to it. That’s the root cause of our unhappiness with life.

We aim , we fail , we cry. We aim , we succeed , another point added to checklist.This way we keep on extending and the list goes ahead of our time. Either we are regretting our past or dreaming about future. Just stay in the present.There’s no one to blame for anything. Just realize it and live in the present…every moment of it. We all can be happy and satisfied without a reason. Once you achieve that. You’ll never complain about your life. So now just don’t wonder about an your life… Go and live it…Now !!!

In reality, we are so much dependent on others for our living. It is because, we have been advised since childhood to be someone in future. Hence, we are given a picture of an ideal person, and we are asked to struggle to reach that position. During this process, individual’s liking, choice, freedom,intuition etc. are never heard. The result is that life becomes a battle ground. Just look around. See, no body is happy with whatever he is doing. Everyone has complain about his job, his profession, his family life.

Hence, it is the time to start doing something your own. But, foremost duty is to identify what you like as an individual. Hence, preparation is required to do a an inner journey. Meditation is useful in this direction. Alternatively, you may watch yourself closely. You may be finding something comfortable, something not easy. You need to be alert to your own intuition towards it. Once, you find what is relaxing, comfortable, where you do not find disturbance in mind, please go with it. You may choose it as a hobby. Then you will find living so easy.

Only one thing I suggest is that please do not follow any advise. What suits you best may not suit him in the same manner. It is impossible and you have no control over the happenings in your life. You are only an actor in this life drama. We have been brought here for a reason, we assume and believe we are masters of all happenings. There is some force which controls all our lives. We have no say in the happenings. You have to go with the flow of your life, accept life as it presents itself to be happy and peaceful.

 Copying will erase your identity. Learn from all, refine the ideas, opinions and experience with your philosophy and move forward like me in your way. Be a leader in your own way, never yield to give up your ethics and be stubborn in your pursuits. There is a big ‘Can’ here in your question. Actually Yes! we can live our life the way we want it to be. But, we need to put real efforts to that. We need to know what makes us happy in life. What we actually want and what we want to stand for. And more importantly, we need to work extremely hard to achieve that.

Success is not what you achieve, its success when you achieve what you wanted! Life without regrets. Stop complaining. Period. I believe regret is the ghost that haunts. Failure is the angel that guides you home. Above mentioned lines are taken from a song called “Smoking Gun”. I have seen people talking sharing their goals, visions, dreams, desires with me ( some in the first meeting) but when they are asked what are they doing in order to achieve it, they come up with multiple excuses. I have seen regret in people’s eyes to not standing up for them in the need of the hour, for not taking the initiative to start the business they wanted to, for not taking the step to confront the parents or to convince them for letting them marry their boyfriend/girlfriend, for wasting time in futile work and not pursuing their dreams and the list goes on.

In this world, we are surrounded with numbers. We play with numbers, measure with numbers, work with numbers, eat with numbers (calories), chase numbers. Thus, normally, we have numbers running in our minds. We all know numbers are endless. Don’t chase numbers. It will never be enough. People run around the jobs chasing promotions, paychecks, leading to zero social life, poor health and broken relations. One should not play the game for money or the result. You need to love the process.

Earlier I used to judge people. Why shouldn’t I? I learnt it the hard way that it’s none of use to judge people or label them as illiterate, uneducated, unsophisticated, etc. etc. What changed me? I realized that when we judge people, we think about them more often which makes us kill our time and distracted from our goal or purpose which leads us to not bearing any fruitful results and stop planning your life on other’s people opinions. It will never be worth it. Cheers!