Marriage – the bittersweet yet most beautiful chapter of our lives!

I may have chosen a clichéd topic to write on, but I must say it forms the core of most of our lives. Often back-benched, the thought of making a marriage work is magnified to the extent that it becomes a task for many. I feel marriage is a beautiful part of our lives and all it requires is the combined effort of the heart, mind and soul.

Marriage is one of the richest treasures of our Indian culture. People say that marriages are made in heaven, well I don’t know if that stands true or not but I am sure of one thing, and that is, we surely can make heaven in marriage. However, it doesn’t happen just like that – all by itself. It requires teamwork. Both partners need to work together, understand each other, respect each other. You can’t play against each other; you need to play together.

Marriage witnesses many turbulent times that tests the togetherness, so be ready to re-instill the strength of your love when time comes. Staying together and maintaining this togetherness is a challenging task in such difficult times.

Marriage is never a gift from God. However, you can gift a great married life to each other. Marriage is responsibility, and it is upon us to carefully and honestly drive our best to bless it with peace and success.

Our spouse is the only person with whom we can be our true selves. He/she plays so many roles in our life - like a best friend, mother/father, coach, trainer, doctor, dietitian, confidante, etc.

The rapport, relationship and vibe that we build our bond and relationship with should be fulfilling, respectful and should inspire people and instill their faith in the institution of marriage. It should be like a blooming flower, spreading joy and happiness around, aging gracefully, while completing and complimenting each other! So what could you do, to make your marriage the best part of your life? Here is what…

We should set our goals for next 10 years, individual goals as well as couple goals. When spouse motivates you, it affects the most.

Excitement is wonderful experience of married life. If there is no excitement, then there is no charm in life. Exploration brings excitement. Excitement has to be alive. We need to take the ownership of something, once you take that then you will start enjoying.

Live life to the fullest, money is important but it is secondary. Chasing money shouldn’t make you regret looking back at the life you lived.

Relationships are not built on agreement; they are built on understanding. We should communicate the hurt without hurting him/her. Communicate in logical and rational manner. There should be a strong bridge of communication between you and your spouse.

A weak relationship is a sign of poor communication and vice versa. A weak spouse can’t make strong married life, so both need to be strong and support each other’s differences and shortcomings, to make your married life successful. If we are together, we should grow together. We should support each other to grow.

Respect; it is important in any relationship. The way you treat your partner in your social circle, lays a foundation of how people will treat him/her or you both as a couple. If you respect your partner in front of other people, then only they will respect your spouse in your absence.

A successful marriage does not have a strict rule book. You need to flow and immerse in it as the day comes, and learn and rise with love and respect as the day goes.

I feel women are the powerful force in a marriage, they can do multiple things at same time. They are emotionally very strong. They set and bring vibration in the house. They form the center of our family. Welcome them with all your love and support and watch your married life bloom in happiness!

Therefore, to sum it all, marriage is responsibility. Sure, it takes two to tango; you lead sometimes and sometimes you follow. For all the other times, you just go with the flow of the music! It is as simple as that.