Masking Unmasked

“Masking is a strategy used by some autistic people, consciously or unconsciously to appear non-autistic in order to blend in and be more accepted in society.” – National Autistic Society

Being autistic is tough, and despite the growing awareness and at times faux allegiance and support for neurodivergence and neurodivergent people, being autistic or having ADHD poses a significant challenge. It's not “spicy” but it does have its positive traits. It’s not always tapping into autistic monotropism, where developing a wide and deep knowledge of one topic, subject or era, etc, that is almost always encyclopaedic.

It's not always about ADHD hyperfocus to complete a task or project in an expedited way. These are the positive traits, the things that set neurodivergent people apart and make us a highly attractive talent pool for many organisations, if they have the culture to support neurodivergent employees.

But on the flip side, autism and ADHD present children and adults who are diagnosed with these conditions with a host of traits behaviours, physical and mental, metaphorical mountains to surmount. So as a result of these difficulties, many neurodivergent people find it easier to hide or cover up their conditions. This covering up is often deliberate and conscious. People who do this often feel that it's a good coping mechanism for them to overcome some of the most prevalent difficulties that the conditions can present.

For others, masking is a stressful and forced activity that is learned from an early age to combat the sometime negative perceptions and reactions to outward displays of autism, like stimming, a physical movement or sound that helps to meet a sensory need. Stimming is such an obvious external sign of neurodivergence that autistic people, even children, feel it is more beneficial to suppress these movements or sounds.

By hiding these actions, those with conditions that create the sensory need to stim, autistic people can appear more neurotypical, or neurotypical. This translates to those with the condition doing their utmost to communicate and interact socially in a way that matches the majority of the population who are neurotypical.

Masking is known to be more common in the female population. This is likely to be societal and aligned with how males and females are brought up in general. Men are given more freedom to express anger, frustration, disappointment and so on. Whereas women, on the whole, are raised to be compliant, suppress their needs, hide their concerns and just blend in to keep the peace. This phenomenon accounts for the late diagnoses of girls versus boys.

What does masking look like? Masking is different for each neurodivergent person who adopts this coping mechanism. For many autistic people, it can cause a lot of stress and anxiety, leading to physical and mental exhaustion. Instinctive sensory needs are suspended to maintain the appearance and behaviour of a neurotypical person. During conversations, the misunderstandings of neurotypical social anomalies, e.g., lying to avoid hurting someone's feelings, are ignored to fit in.

The inability of autistic people in particular, to read and interpret nonverbal communication is a common occurrence. Often autistic people will withdraw from actively participating in conversations to minimise the risk of revealing their condition/s. Some neurodivergent people see this as retaining control of their lives and an empowering way to direct their own experience of how their autism shows up in their everyday experiences.

When it comes to masking, there is no right or wrong. There are no rules or standard methods. The act of hiding various neurodivergent conditions is perceived by some neurodivergent and neurotypical people to be a phenomenon that is forced upon many, due to societal pressures constructed largely by the neurotypical population. Then others view it as a desirable and necessary approach to handling their neurodivergence.

How can we normalise the open display of neurodivergent traits, behaviours, and communication styles? I believe the key sits with increasing awareness of neurodivergent conditions like Autism and ADHD in the wider population. What are the fears – real or imagined – that neurotypical people think about when they are either working closely with a neurodivergent person or in a social setting with an autistic person or someone with ADHD?

Masking neurodivergence essentially means hiding one’s true self from the public, from colleagues, or even from friends. No one can say that masking should not happen as there is a school of thought which states that neurotypical people also hide certain aspects of themselves. Choosing what to reveal, to who, and when. That is a personal right that everyone has.

But for those who find masking stressful and exhausting surely we can, as a society, be more mindful of how our reactions to behaviours that we’re not familiar, with can cause anxiety and poor mental health outcomes.

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