My TRUE LIFE STRUGGLE that WILL leave you hopeful! You must read this!!

My TRUE LIFE STRUGGLE that WILL leave you hopeful! You must read this!!

My name is Ryan Winner...

Since I was a little kid I have always had the odds stacked against me, kicked out of schools, put on homebound teaching because I had behavior issues, and never really getting a solid chance to build healthy relationships with kids my own age. My parents had to take the district school to court to get me back into school because the system failed me. Since I was expelled from the school district in 1st grade, I was sent off to a school from 2nd-4th where I was locked in timeouts when I was bad and kept in small classes with other behavior disordered kids. I was always told I was special and required special attention and classes because the system couldn’t handle someone like me. 

I eventually earned my way back to a normal school in 5th grade to be expelled again and put back on homebound teaching with a teacher showing up at my home a few days a week to teach me. I was acting out in classes and telling teachers off and I disrupted the classroom learning for everyone else. As I went off to 6th I was sent to another school where I was expelled again for bad behavior, therefore I was sent to this school for only recess at the end of the day, then a teacher would teach me after the school was closed. I dealt with so much rejection and so many people doubting me and thinking I would be a convict or be locked away from society even before I grew older. I was seeing specialists, psychiatrists, therapists, and everyone else to diagnose me that I was a headcase and would never amount to anything besides a “dennis the menace”.

I made it to middle school finally and things started to look up for me as we had an IEP in place but I was still being treated differently, and even rode the short bus to and from school, was constantly picked on for being different. This took a toll on my psyche and I finally graduated Highschool on time, but I was damaged goods and no one wanted any part of me. 

I eventually grew up and these behavioral issues continued with me as I became old enough to get a job, and they were partially why I was fired from so many jobs. I was never taught how to act appropriately with others and instead of getting better I got worse and got fired so many times that it took a toll on my psyche as I never succeeded in anything in my life. I was always pushed away or told to just go collect disability and live a life as someone who couldn’t make friends or hold down a job. As I became older and started driving I started hanging out with the wrong people and got arrested several times and spent overnight stays in jail, my parents and family all thought I was a goner and was going to head off to prison. I eventually moved away from all the problems and people that were not good for me and grew up a bit. The problem is I still dealt with behavioral problems and continued to get fired as I headed into my early and late 20s. Instead of building relationships with people inside companies I was pissing people off. I became an expert at pissing people off and making enemies. 

By my late 20’s I finally settled down a little and enrolled into an online college to get my Bachelor’s degree, which I did receive in 2010. By the time I hit 32 I started realizing that I was not meant for Corporate America no matter how many jobs I had and how much experience I had. In May of 2014 I was stocking beer in grocery stores part time and decided to up and quit the job with $1500 in my bank account and started begging people to let me write their Resumes for free. While looking for a job in May of 2014, I decided to do freelance resume writing until I located a new job. This was while being told by family and friends I would not make a living doing this. I used this as fuel for my fire. 

Eventually this took off and I was charging people $50 and $100 and so forth and we grew to the point where I had to hire some help. What started as a freelance opportunity to earn some income while looking for a job, eventually turned into the full-time resume business I have today.

I had never once in my life ever succeeded at anything until I grinded at building my own company, Ryno Resumes, all this while being told by family and friends I was stupid and that the business would never take off. 

The system failed me time and time again as a child and I was never supposed to be where I am today but all the failures I went through fueled my fire to not take no for an answer and to not give up on myself. I became great at my trade by practicing on my own resumes and since I couldn’t hold down a job I was constantly updating my own that I became an unbelievable Resume Writer.

Obviously my resumes were working, probably because I was constantly on the phone with Rasmussen's career services, asking them to continually critique my work, or scheduling to meet with STLCC for resume help, to make sure I was doing it right. I always took the critiques well, and got better and better with my resume writing with each new revision and job.

The moral of the story is that even though it took 32 years of my life to learn what I was supposed to do, and had many rejections along the way, I can finally say that I am content with my career. If I was to estimate how many jobs I've held, I'd say upwards of 60 or so different jobs with different companies. 

I am still affected today by everything that happened in childhood and I still struggle with developing relationships with people and making friends, but I pushed against the fact that my dad verbally abused the shit out of me along with dealing with the repercussions of being a problem child and being told by the educators that I would never amount to anything. I made a statement by starting Ryno Resumes, and I recognize that all the struggles and the verbal abuse was there to push me to get better, but as a child it isn’t easy to handle as you mimic and follow your peers because you aren’t wise enough to make your own decisions. 6 years later I am still running Ryno Resumes and I have that fire to succeed and keep growing the company every single day because it’s been the only thing I have ever had long term. If educators and all those involved in expelling me had their way I would be in prison with the key thrown away. Instead I am using all that pain and suffering to push my dream of proving that I wasn’t a mistake and that I just dealt with things much more difficult than others to see what I was made of.


NEVER GIVE UP NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE SAYS!!!! YOU ARE GREAT AND YOU HAVE A PURPOSE IN LIFE.

Josh Paydon

Connecting Talent with Great Opportunities in the World of Construction @ Neeljym Search Group | Purveyor of Awesome Careers + Promoter of Awesome People

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Proud of you for sharing your story Ryan! I hope more people read this and those who have a similar experience in overcoming constant roadblocks as you have find their own internal power to knock down those walls someone else put in front of them and find their passion. Life is truly a journey and not a destination, and using your experience in overcoming adversity as motivation to get here, to this day and in this moment, is how you find out who you are and what you truly are capable of accomplishing. Keep it up!

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