Navigating the Sandwich Generation: Balancing Caregiving and Career

In the July 2024 edition of the Career Experts Group's "Your Career > Your Future" newsletter, an insightful question was addressed in the Ask the Experts section. The question, which resonates with many professionals juggling multiple caregiving responsibilities, received a thoughtful response from expert Vivian VanLier . I'd like to share both the question and Vivian's answer, followed by some additional insights I've compiled on this critical topic.

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Ask the Experts Question:

"I'm juggling the responsibilities of caring for my young kids and aging parents. How can I talk to my employer about adjusting my schedule to help manage my work-life balance better, while showing that I'm still fully committed to my job?"

Vivian VanLier's Answer:

Balancing the responsibilities of caring for young children and aging parents can be challenging. Following are some ideas to keep in mind when discussing changes to your schedule while assuring them of your professional commitment.

• Create an outline of a clear and realistic proposal that demonstrates how these changes can benefit both you and the company. Be sure to request a meeting at a time when your employer is likely to be less busy and more receptive.
• Clearly explain your situation and the impact it has on your work-life balance. Reassure your employer of your commitment to your role and the company, and emphasize that you are seeking this adjustment to maintain your productivity and overall well-being. Highlight how the proposed changes would result in your increased engagement, reduced absenteeism, and improved job satisfaction.
• Propose specific solutions such as flexible hours, remote work, or a compressed work week. Since your employer may have concerns or constraints, be open to discussing different options that can work for both parties. Then, suggest a trial period to demonstrate that the adjusted schedule can work effectively.
• Keep the conversation professional and focused on finding a solution. Avoid letting emotions take over and remain calm and composed throughout the discussion. After the initial discussion, follow up with a written summary of your proposal and the agreed-upon adjustments.
• If possible, seek support from HR or your company's employee assistance program (EAP) to get additional resources or suggestions to help manage your work-life balance."

My Additional Insights:

Vivian's advice provides an excellent foundation for approaching this delicate conversation with your employer. Building on her recommendations, I've compiled some additional action items and strategies that can further support professionals in the "sandwich generation" as they navigate their dual roles of caregiver and committed employee:

1. Research company policies: Before approaching your employer, thoroughly review your company's existing policies on flexible work arrangements, family leave, and caregiver support. This knowledge will help you frame your request within the context of established guidelines.
2. Quantify your productivity: Track and document your work output and achievements. Present concrete data showing how you've maintained or improved your performance despite your caregiving responsibilities. This evidence can strengthen your case for a flexible arrangement.
3. Propose a communication plan: Outline how you'll stay connected and accessible during your proposed flexible hours. Suggest using project management tools, regular check-ins, or status updates to ensure seamless collaboration with your team.
4. Explore job sharing or part-time options: If full-time work with flexible hours isn't feasible, consider proposing a job-sharing arrangement with a colleague or transitioning to a part-time role temporarily.
5. Investigate external support services: Research local caregiving resources, adult daycare centers, or respite care services. Showing that you're actively seeking additional support demonstrates your commitment to balancing work and personal responsibilities.
6. Join employee resource groups: If your company has employee resource groups for caregivers or working parents, join them. These groups can provide valuable support and advice.
7. Consider professional development: Propose ways to continue your professional growth, such as online courses or virtual conferences, that align with your caregiving schedule. This shows your commitment to long-term career development.
8. Develop a backup plan: Create contingency plans for unexpected caregiving emergencies. Having a clear strategy for handling unforeseen situations can reassure your employer of your reliability.
9. Seek mentorship: Connect with colleagues or professionals who have successfully navigated similar situations. Their insights and advice can be invaluable in managing your career and caregiving responsibilities.
10. Prioritize self-care: Implement stress-management techniques and maintain your own health. A burned-out employee is less productive, so emphasize how taking care of yourself enables you to perform better at work and at home.
11. Stay informed about legal rights: Familiarize yourself with relevant laws such as the Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) and any state-specific regulations regarding caregiver protections in the workplace. According to AARP, "A recent study, “Caring Locally for Caregivers,” released by the AARP Public Policy Institute and the Center for WorkLife Law at UC Hastings Law, uncovered family responsibilities discrimination laws that protect family caregivers in Delaware and 32 local jurisdictions of all sizes, from New York City and San Francisco to Champaign, Illinois and Adrian, Michigan."
12. Regularly reassess and adjust: Propose periodic reviews of your flexible arrangement to ensure it continues to meet both your needs and your employer's expectations. Be prepared to make adjustments as your caregiving situation evolves.

By combining Vivian's expert advice with these additional strategies, professionals in the sandwich generation can approach their employers with confidence, armed with a comprehensive plan to balance their caregiving responsibilities and professional commitments. Remember, the key to success lies in open communication, proactive planning, and a willingness to find solutions that benefit both you and your employer.

Thank you to our amazing Career Experts Group team: Elyse Pipitone LCSW , Laura Lee Ellen "Laura" Johnson, MBA, MPBS, CDBS, CICNC , Jacqueline Connolly-Peros, MPBS, CDBS , and Jeanne Stoner, CPRW, CPBS, MSIR ☆ Job Search Pro

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