Parenting Through the Holidays

The holiday season brings joy, excitement, and—let’s be honest—a bit of chaos, especially for parents of young children. With packed schedules, family gatherings, and endless to-do lists, finding balance can feel overwhelming. But with a bit of planning, you can embrace the magic of the season while supporting your child’s growth and learning.

Create a Calm Amidst the Chaos

Holidays can disrupt routines, but they don’t have to disrupt your child’s emotional well-being. ZERO TO THREE suggests, “Modeling calm behavior during stressful moments can teach children how to manage big feelings.” If your child feels overwhelmed at a busy gathering, validate their emotions by saying, “I see you’re feeling upset—it’s okay to feel that way.” Help them take a break by going for a walk or provide a quiet corner with their favorite book or stuffed animal to help them settle.

For families traveling during the holidays, pack familiar items like a favorite blanket or small toys to maintain a sense of security. Maintaining a predictable bedtime or nap schedule, even when you’re away from home, can also ease the transitions and keep your preschooler happier during the festivities.

Celebrate Through Learning

The holidays are a perfect opportunity to teach children about family traditions and new cultural experiences. National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC) advises, “Encourage children to ask questions about traditions—they’re developing curiosity and critical thinking.” When making tamales or decorating a tree, explain the significance behind each action. Ask questions like, “Why do you think we do this every year?” or “What’s your favorite part of this tradition?”

Incorporating traditions can also spark early learning, such as sequencing events, identifying shapes, or learning new vocabulary. For instance, while baking cookies, involve your child in counting ingredients or describing the smells and textures—engaging their senses helps reinforce their development.

Balance Screen Time with Bonding

It’s tempting to rely on screens to keep your child entertained while you manage holiday preparations, but mindful interaction is far more impactful. Swap a tablet for a festive activity that encourages creativity and connection, like crafting ornaments or making holiday cards for family members.

Another simple idea is a holiday-themed scavenger hunt. Challenge your child to find objects like a star on the tree, a red bow, or a shiny gift box. This keeps them engaged and helps develop their observation and problem-solving skills—all while giving you time to tackle your holiday to-do list.

Enjoy the Season Together

In the rush to make the holidays perfect, it’s easy to forget that it’s the little moments your child will remember most. Whether it’s giggling over a cake-covered kitchen counter, cuddling under a blanket for a story, or dancing to your favorite holiday songs, these moments create lasting memories.

As you navigate the hustle and bustle, remind yourself that the greatest gift you can give your child is your time and attention.