PERFECTIONISM: Why ‘Good Enough’ and not ‘Perfect’ is the new badge of honour.

Ellenor Cox who is one of Australia’s most qualified life coaches spoke with the members of WeWork at the me&my Wellness Wednesday about Perfectionism.

Perfectionism is a personality trait where the individual is striving for flawlessness and sets high performance standards that are hard to achieve. The person becomes more focused on analysing every situation and seeing what could go wrong. Perfectionism is best friends with shame and fear in the sense that the individual is scared if the work they put out there is less than perfect or that they themselves aren’t perfect. They want to make sure that everything they do and who they are fits into this nice square box when in actual fact no one can fit into that box. All people are different and therefore have different sized boxes!

Ellenor stated that women get the sense that they aren’t enough the most. Granted that some men get the sense that they have to be the manly man and the white knight that can come to save the day. These men have the fear to be perceived as less than that, is to be weak. A way that we can fix this sense of not being enough is to acknowledge the negative voice in our head and changing the tone of it to say that yes we are enough and yes we are good enough!

Talk by Ellenor Cox

Written and photo by Adrianna Scantlebury