Personal Boundaries for Professional Success

Today’s article is a bit of a special one and if you're in Lit Up Leadership Academy with me, you’ll recognize that what I discuss here, aligns with one of our challenges —personal boundaries for professional success.

Boundaries play a crucial role in our professional lives and are there to serve as a guideline to help us maintain a separation between aspects of our lives, and be able to differentiate between personal and professional boundaries.

Without clear boundaries, or if these boundaries don’t translate to personal life, or if your boundaries are so vague that they become difficult to maintain, you may find yourself burning out, overwhelmed, and drained, and having detrimental effects on your health.

By exploring some examples of workplace boundaries, what personal burnout looks like, and some strategies to build boundaries, we can then understand why maintaining a balance between work and personal life is essential for success.

Often we focus on setting boundaries at work to manage our time and energy effectively. It might involve defining specific work hours, communicating realistic timelines for deliverables, or saying no to additional tasks when your plate is full. These strategies are essential for maintaining a healthy work environment and ensuring professional success

But when we leave these boundaries at the office and don’t maintain these boundaries at home it can take a toll on our wellbeing. When we fail to transition them to our personal lives we end up saying yes to everything. We want to be agreeable and accommodating, or because we struggle with being a people-pleaser. This imbalance can lead to burnout, exhaustion, and irritability.

To better understand this dynamic, I want to give you some examples of workplace boundaries. Some of these you may already have implemented, and if you don’t have any sort of boundaries set in place, then I hope that this gives you some inspiration. I challenge you to choose one or two boundaries to start implementing into your work routines.

If you’re setting boundaries for the first time, the first step is having the self-awareness to know your limits and what you need in order to protect your well-being. Clearly communicating your needs by being assertive and direct is essential when establishing boundaries. Stay consistent and learn to say no when someone tries to push against that boundary. To help protect your boundaries, it may be helpful to delegate and practice self-care.

Examples of workplace boundaries could include practicing saying no, identifying the responsibilities of your job, being honest, establishing a clear schedule, understanding your workload and setting limits, taking time off—without feeling guilty, setting your priorities and delegating where needed, and also establishing boundaries at home.

Some other boundaries could include physical boundaries to establish how others interact with you, emotional boundaries to help you separate your feelings from someone else’s, and mental boundaries, to help protect your energy, thoughts, and values.

We talk a lot about and have a greater awareness of burnout in the workplace, but burnout isn’t just confined to your workplace, it can show up in every aspect of your life, including at home.

Suppose we aren’t adhering to our boundaries at home just as well as we try to at work. In that case, burnout can quietly sneak into our lives, in not-so-big or obvious ways, but in small parts of our routines, the weight of our responsibilities, and the constant demands of our time and energy.

Recognizing these small signs helps catch potential issues early and avoid long-term impacts on our well-being.

Now, personal burnout isn’t simple. It’s a mix of factors wearing down our resilience and enthusiasm, and not necessarily caused by stressful work or too many responsibilities. Other factors contribute to burnout including lifestyle and personality traits. Your downtime and outlook on life are just as important in causing overwhelming demands on you at work or home.

It can feel so exhausting when you start noticing that you’re slowly disconnecting from friends and family and feeling unaccomplished. You may feel that it is difficult to engage in activities that you normally find meaningful and possibly no longer caring about things that are important to you and feel a sense of hopelessness.

Personal burnout can also look like frequently feeling tired and drained, regardless of the time of day, changes in sleep habits, lack of motivation or feeling trapped or having a negative outlook, withdrawing from responsibilities, or procrastinating at the responsibilities.

Burnout can be caused by many different things in all aspects of your life, including at work, where you may feel like you have little or no control over your work, aren’t getting recognized, have unclear or demanding expectations, where the pressure is high. It’s also caused by an imbalance in your lifestyle, where you tend to work too much and have little time to relax or socialize, not get enough sleep, or lack close relationships that you can lean on for support.

Finally, burnout can also be caused by your own personality. A lot of you who find yourselves burning out probably have a high-achieving, type-A -Personality where you strive for perfection, feel you need to be in control at all times and dislike delegating.

To avoid or mitigate burnout, it’s worth putting together a toolkit of strategies to help maintain boundaries at work and at home. This toolkit can make a substantial difference when put into regular practice—the significance of carving out personal time in amongst a busy schedule, being able to say no to relentless demands and being able to flick off the people-pleasing switch, and also refraining from being your family’s project manager because you do that enough at work already.

DEDICATE TIME FOR PERSONAL TIME

The first strategy I want you to consider adding to your toolkit is the concept of dedicating time in your schedule for personal time, without the weight of responsibilities. Being able to have personal time isn’t just a luxury, but it is crucial and necessary for maintaining a healthy balance between work and home.

SAY NO MORE

Your toolkit extends into the fine art of saying no and trying to please everyone. This strategy I want you to add, that when mastered, becomes a shield against the endless, excessive demands. Being able to say no to requests from your family and friends isn’t about rejection, but about setting healthy boundaries and managing expectations. By implementing this, you’re ensuring that your commitments align with your capacity, preventing burnout.

By turning off your impulses to say yes to everything and to please everyone, you actually find freedom, allowing you to reclaim your time and energy for what really matters. If you need tips and tricks on how to say no and how to get over feeling the need to please everyone, I talked about this way back in Episode 156 of The Leading Women in Tech Podcast, so I encourage you to go listen to that.

DELEGATE TO FAMILY

You aren’t your family’s project manager. Do you ever feel that you’re the only one who schedules, remembers, plans, and organizes your whole family’s appointments, school activities, extracurricular activities, bake sales, birthday party planning, what they’ll eat for every meal. The mental load that we have to carry as women in our family, as we are often the ones that our family turns to for EVERYTHING. So, practice putting it back on your family members. Delegate things to them, and have them take more responsibility. Inviting your family into more effective decision-making processes will help lighten the mental load for yourself and foster a healthier, more balanced environment.

MAKE DECISIONS

Finally, we may find that decisions often linger around, creating mental clutter that fogs our clarity and efficiency. Being able to decide on things and then letting them go is the next strategy for our toolbox. If you have any decisions that are still hiding away in the back of your mind, the tasks that you’ve committed to, the choices that are still waiting for a resolution. These unresolved matters accumulate, creating a mental backlog that contributes to unnecessary stress. So, in order to ease your mental load and improve your mental bandwidth, I want to encourage you to focus on what really matters to you. Go through any of those decisions that are weighing you down, decide if it matters, and if not, it’s time to say goodbye to it for good and let it go. This isn’t just a strategy, it’s shifting your whole mindset that takes practice. But it will create a space that is calmer and clearer, allowing you to be more resilient and efficient.

As I wrap up today’s article, remember that personal boundaries are an integral part of your overall success. Balancing work and personal life is not just a professional skill, but a life skill. If you are a part of Lit Up Leadership Academy, I encourage you to re-explore our challenge. If you’re not part of the Academy, I encourage you to come join us and embrace the power of personal boundaries, set a couple in place, and stick to them. Notice how they start giving you more freedom.

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