The Power of Shared Struggles: Building Unbreakable Bonds

It feels good to see how people bond together in #relationships; they smile, laugh, cry, enjoy, party, suffer, share, and do everything together. They have their small world, and nothing outside it matters to them.

How do they do it?

Let’s see…

Most of them met each other when they were struggling to find who they are, what they want, where they want to go, what they want to do, how it can be done, and all those ifs, buts, whys, hows, and whats associated with the struggle to become successful.

Successful in work, relationships, society, and above all, as #human beings!

The glue that held them together is the pain they all shared on the journey. One of them sowed a seed, and they all joined in to nourish it. They were committed to each other no matter what happened, and they believed in each other, thinking, “We together are going to make it grow.” And now, as that seed has become a plant, they are enjoying the benefits—the sweet fruit of success is being shared.

There are countless examples of group and individual success where it all started from nothing. One individual saw a dream, and everyone around them believed in it. They struggled together, forming a support system. No one just said, “You carry on, and I’ll join in if you succeed.” Well, my dear friend, it doesn’t work that way. You have to be committed to something when it starts from nothing. Anyone would want to join a success story. People like to be part of a happy and joyous family; they like spending time with them. People want to join successful business ventures, and they want to associate themselves with successful individuals.

All those who once said, “Dekh, you are wasting your time, struggling for this,” “I don’t have time for this crap,” “I’m not part of this,” “I’m ready to come with you, but I can’t commit,” “Hey, I have my own problems, so if I see you’re doing good, I’ll join in,” and so on, are now found saying, “Hey, do you see that guy? He’s my friend,” “Do you see him? He’s from my village,” “See that man on TV? I once dated him,” “Hey, I’m his relative,” “He’s from my college,” “We used to chill out together,” “He once came to me for a job,” “I met him once when he was looking for a break,” “Look at him, he was so stupid, a struggler, and now he’s really made it big, yaar,” and many more.

Then are those from another breed who once said,

“He/she is my friend, and I know he/she is going to make it big; I believe it”,

“He/she is my boyfriend/girlfriend, I know he/she is struggling, but I’m proud of him/her”,

“I know my kid; no matter what, I’m with him/her”,

“Yes bro/sis, tu tension mat le, hum hain na”,

“Arre yaar, tu pareshaan kyun hota hai? Dekh, ek kaam kar, dobaara plan karte hain”,

“OK, let’s find out what went wrong and do it differently”,

“Hey, see, I’m telling you, this should be done like this,” “Come, let’s do it”,

“What’s the plan, and what’s my role?”

These positive thoughts of belonging and commitment are often followed by-

“Arre yaar, now that you’ve made it a success, aaja party karte hain, aur Beta! tu aa raha hai, tujhe aana hee hai”,

“I don’t care if you like that car; I like this one better, and we’re going to buy that only”

“I want you to take an off from work; we’ve got to go on vacation with the kids,”

and much more.

These are the people who don’t just stand by you in your moments of triumph; they are also the ones who never take you for granted. You remain their priority, not just when everything is going well, but especially when times are tough. They will fight with you, sometimes fiercely, because they believe they have the right to—because they care, because they are deeply invested in you and the relationship. It’s these fights, these moments of tension, disagreement, and reconciliation, that also strengthen the bond, making it more resilient and unbreakable.

Those who survive the times of tension, breaks, and silence, who stick by you when no one else does, are the ones who come out stronger on the other side. They emerge with relationships that are deeper, more meaningful, and capable of withstanding anything life throws their way. These relationships, built on a foundation of #commitment, shared struggle, and unwavering support, are the ones that truly last.