Pushing Past the Fear: Speaking When It Feels Uncomfortable

I’ve never been a big talker. When I was a kid, my older brother did most of the talking for me. He always had something to say, and I was happy to stay quiet.

Speaking made me uncomfortable, so I stayed away from situations where I had to talk. I was the observer, watching and listening to others.

But life doesn’t always let you stay quiet.

When I first started teaching English, over 25 years ago, I was scared and nervous because I had to stand in front of people and speak out loud and clear.

I worried that I would freeze up, mess up, or stumble over my words.

I’ve also had to present in both English and German, and each time, it was scary.

Being a guest on podcasts in both languages pushed me even further out of my comfort zone.

But you know what the scariest thing I ever had to do was?

Singing on stage. I was shaking in my boots!

But I wanted to share my passion with others, so with time, I learned to turn that fear into excitement—whether it’s teaching, speaking, or singing.

The more I put myself out there, the easier it got.

Now, I see those nerves as a sign that what I’m doing is important, and that keeps me moving forward.

When I feel scared before speaking in an uncomfortable or high-pressure situation—whether it’s talking or singing—I close my eyes and imagine myself after it’s over.

I picture the relief of having finished, knowing I gave it my best shot. In that moment, I let go and trust that everything will be okay. Even if I mess up, life goes on.

If things don’t go as planned, I reflect on what went wrong and focus on practicing where I need improvement.

The more I push through my fear, the more I improve, and each experience makes me stronger for the next time.

It’s a simple cycle: Do it—make mistakes—improve—do it again.

Every time you push yourself, even if you mess up, you’re building confidence and learning for the next time.

The biggest struggle I hear from English learners is their fear of speaking—whether it’s freezing up, stumbling over words, or feeling completely misunderstood. I understand this fear. But what matters is that you keep trying and practicing.

Each time you speak—whether in a meeting or a casual conversation—you’re growing.

The goal is getting better, not getting it right every time. After all, we are all only human—don’t be so hard on yourself, and with each try, you’ll grow.

Confidence comes through these small steps.

If speaking makes you nervous or uncomfortable, you’re not alone—but you can overcome it.

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