Redefining Your 2025 Rules for Success

We are in the final 2-months of the year. Only a short span of weeks left in 2024 in which to push past what you’ve been doing in favor of what you most want to do. Peoplehood has so many rules to live by. We have societal rules that we need to honor, we have personal values that we try to uphold, we have various business and organizational rules that we adhere to, and then we have that unique bunch of rules that define our personal selves. This individual mindset rulebook is perhaps the most powerful of all because this is the rulebook over which we have the most control. Lead that and you manage what is most important.

What does your updated 2025 version of success feature?

We are the authors of our own mindset rulebooks. Just like an actual published best seller, our individual books can be relevant at one point in time and irrelevant and outdated at another. Is it time for a new and updated version of this bible you live by and if so, what will it take to refresh the copy so that it best reflects who you are today…in “real time?” Is there a chapter of your mindset rulebook that you have been meaning to add or rewrite, but you have just not gotten to it yet? Understandable, since status quo is so comfortably enticing until this punch list of regulations that you live your life by has you not living your life, but simply going through the daily motions. So, what’s next? How can your own rules reveal themselves in your successes?

 Change the playbook and the plays change.

It sounds simple. You assume that you will just do things differently tomorrow. You will change something. Except, you don’t. The reason why? You need to give yourself permission to change. It’s not a thought, it’s an action. For change to not only take place but also become a daily habit in your life, you need to give yourself permission to break the old personal mindset rules in favor of an update and a re-write. Letting go of one way of thinking allows you to welcome in a new belief. That new belief leads your updated definition of success.

 For me, 2024 represented the year of the move. Selling my large family home and all its contents, moving apartments, renovating a home in Scottsdale, and renting another in the process. Change one thing…and the rulebook shifts! My choices exploded! How I defined success this year speaks to my character and my tenacity and also to my ability to self-lead. It is harder when surrounded by change to acknowledge the wins and bask in the accomplishments. I plan to step into 2025 leading with my own brilliance and stepping away from the endless tasks of getting things done to honor my own capacity to juggle and to stay in choice and true to myself. One thing is for sure. My management skills have never been sharper, my decisions never more vibrant, and my capacity and capability as a human and as a businesswoman wider and more determined. Not sure old me could show up as new me. I evolved and met the moment because I was willing to break the rules. I was resilient because I leaned into trusting myself.

 How will you meet the moment?

 Do This Now:

Grab a piece of paper and a pencil and make yourself a permission slip. At the top of the page write old rules on one side and new rules on the other side. For every old mindset rule and every fear that is holding you hostage from doing things differently, there needs to be a partnership with a new rule that will have you taking an action step toward the process of change in your life. This list becomes not only your permission slip and guide; it is also a positive way to manifest and reference the changes you most want in 2025.

 Here is an example:

Old Rule:

I am good at being an accountant, lawyer, teacher, or stay-at-home-mom. This is all that I know how to do.

 New Rule:

I am good at dozens of things. I really enjoy X, Y & Z. Is there a way to get more X, Y & Z into my life? Can I start an X, Y & Z business?

Manifest a List of Steps to Take Now & Run the Experiment:

·      Research new ways to implement X, Y, & Z into your life.

·      Sign up for a class, read a book, talk to and learn from people doing what you seek.

·      Believe that you can.

·      Identify what scares you. Look it in the eye.

·      Try out one new thing.

·      Now try another.

·      Where can your new rule and new habits and actions fuel change?

·      How can you incorporate those habits into your daily life?

·      How can your capacity to lead shift because of this?

The trick to breaking your personal rules is that there is no trick. It takes commitment and work. It requires decision-making. As you turn the corner on the new year, make a choice to friend the fear that is dictating your old mindset and to experiment with and embrace re-writing a new set of rules and habits. Begin. You have a 2-month jump on the New Year!

 Need support in redefining success or in breaking your own rules? Reach out.