No Regrets - Replace your pout with pivot. Self leadership 101

NO REGRETS. Why we need to replace pouting with pivot.

How to harness the abundance mindset regardless of what is going on around you.

This Mojo was to land in your inbox while I was weaving my way on a plane to a much anticipated island get away. Change of plans though. Not going anywhere.

INSANE disappointment. 

I am allowing myself one day of wallowing and having 'getaway cancelled blues' then I need to re-think how I can master this much needed time out in my own back yard.

Don't pout. Pivot. *(it's from the Niktionary....)

The attitude of regret is not going to help me make the most right now.

If I was to look back at the last 5-6 years of planned trips and the things that didn't work out or not having proper holidays, I wouldn't come out of that mindset of lack and disappointment for days! 

The fact is REGRET is an extremely raw and real emotion. We have to allow ourselves to recognise it and let it rise up and pass through. Hanging on to that feeling is not going to serve you.

Regret can be from not saying yes to a job, not buying a home earlier, not calling a parent or a loved one and now that opportunity has gone, not getting out of a toxic relationship sooner.

It can be feelings of regret from missing a funeral, not telling someone you love them, not hugging your kids enough or maybe looking back at some behaviours and decisions you weren't so proud of. This is life. 

Life is real. It's not a perfectly calm and peaceful landscape where we get everything we want all the time and it's all puppies and sunshine.

Being an adult requires an equal level of resilience as much as it does agility.

Don't look back and pout over what was or what you missed out on. That will only lead to more pain. Instead learn from those moments what you can and do things differently next time.

How am I doing that in this example of a cancelled much anticipated break away? 

I am giving myself till 10:00am today to wallow in the fact I am not sitting on a beach as planned totally away from the world and completely in paradise. Yes it really is a major let down.

But so is inflation, increased mortgage interest rates, people without homes at all, those ill, those who are dealing with loss, animals in captivity, war and losing people we love. Loss of work and opportunities. These are much more serious.

It is how we respond to all these things that determines our outcome in life. 

I still have a choice.

How I show up in the next 8 days is entirely up to me. I could stomp around like a child and throw a tantrum, or make the most of this situation and create a game plan.

So here it is: Fresh off the press - making my own mojo from a crappy moment; 

1. Train like a pro athlete (well sort of).... I have now decided to use the next few days to exercise and train without rushing. Long bike rides, swims on noosa main beach and running the national park ✅. With no stress on pace - just to use nature as my gym.

2. Book my favourite restaurants. Here in Noosa I have some all time OG favourite spots, Rickys on the waterfront, Bistro C, Sails, Locale and Le Monde for breakfast. Simple rituals that are wonderful to enjoy. ✅

3. Keep my holidays in the calendar and use the time to really recharge. It's been a gruelling 4 months workload and I am no good to my clients and mojo tribe if I don't put my oxygen mask on first.

So making the time to just do some R&R and head for a surf, go up the north shore and get my mates to take me fishing - vital ingredients to know my energy levels are restored and I can leave my phone at home. ✅

4. Let go. Drop the disappointment that I am not on holiday and focus on what is right in front of me.

We have the best backyard here on the Sunshine Coast. In fact it is an award winning holiday destination. My mission is to find a way to get off the beaten track and away from the crowds. Will let you know how that goes. ✅

5. Appreciate what I have. That doesn't require an explanation :). 

Last Friday I was completely humbled by the men who attended our Legacy Lunch® at Bask. An incredible panel of seasoned leaders, and a room full of talented men who run businesses, lead their families and value the importance of mateship as a vital component of being happy and supported in today's modern world.

These events, both the Men's only one and the classic Legacy Lunch® series are a mission of mine and to see them continue to build after all these years is a sincere privilege. 

Leadership is not about gender. It's about how we carry ourselves in all conditions. The way we respond, share our experiences that have given us the stripes we have earned so far today. It is a right of passage. There is no shortcut.

So if you're experiencing pangs of regret, it could be about anything. I urge you to PIVOT and drop the pain and the pout.

Recognise your raw emotion, acknowledge that but gran the opportunity to do the next right thing. 

For the gallery of last weeks epic lunch series please click here. To book a seat at the DYNASTY DINNER at Bella Venezia on Thursday 31st August on the Sunshine Coast please click here.

To join me for the Boardroom Retreat® and BOATBOARDROOM™ add on - head to here and request the brochure.

Make it count - no regrets.

There is no way I am letting 'sort of' or "I wish" come into anyone's vocabulary right now.

I know you may be tired, exhausted, a little worn down perhaps or just 'sort of' about a few things - but I want to remind you this is no dress rehearsal.

Grab your life - grip that steering wheel and look at the road ahead.

Increase your peripheral vision. There is a reason rear-view mirrors are smaller than windscreens.

PS please note we have strictly limited places for our strategic retreats - we do the work on the spot. Don't miss your chance to get radically set up personally and professionally and unlock all your super powers. We are here to make sure all of you shine - leadership is not age or title. It's your attitude to life.

Stay classy and see you online or in person shortly ⚡️

Nikki