Relations should be like eye and hand

The signal hypothesis: Crying is an expensive honest signal so to say. Honest signals are very valuable. Humans need to express emotions and intentions in social situations, right? To do this, we signal to each other. But signals can be faked, right? So I need an honest signal. I need a signal that shows I am sincere. So how do I make a signal honest? I make it expensive, in terms of what I need to do to make it work. I make the signal costly. Dressing for an interview:

Imagine two individuals. Both are equally qualified for a job. One, however, is nonchalant during the interview, has dressed in their normal street clothes, and doesn’t seem to have spent any time learning about your company or business. The second interviewee is dressed appropriately with freshly cleaned and pressed clothes, is well-groomed, with shined shoes, and has clearly spent time learning about the company. The two candidates in all other respects are equal. Obviously, the second person is the better choice. They have taken the time to invest in the signal that they are dedicated to getting this job and acting like a professional. That signal is costly. Animals do it: Animals signal all the time.

A gazelle which sees a predator decides the threat level. If the predator was spotted far away, the gazelle may engage in stotting. They jump in the air uselessly, slowing down their evasion, as an expensive sign to the predator, “Dude, you’ve been made and I am fast. Drop the hunt.” Usually, if a gazelle does this, the predator realizes the hunt isn’t worth it. The gazelle doesn’t have to actually run away. This helps the gazelle to not waste energy in a pointless chase. And predators respond because they don’t waste their energy on a prey animal that is going to escape.

Of note, gazelles only Stott when they think they’ve got it made. If they feel threatened, they conserve energy and flee. This keeps stotting valuable and honest. If the stotting wasn’t expensive, it would be useless, because gazelles would start lying and then the predators would ignore it, to the detriment of gazelles and predators alike. Crying leaves you with diminished vision. It is very visible to everyone. It leaves you vulnerable if anyone sees you crying. The expense here, of course, includes social capital. Go back to the days of our ancestors when we lived in small groups. If you’re angry with me and express your anger (likely with expensive, honest signals like shouting, getting red, and so on), and I respond by begging your forgiveness, saying I will make amends, and publicly crying, you have reason to believe my contrition is honest, the community knows what I’ve done, and so on.

If I am sad or need aid, crying is an expensive signal that I am in emotional or physical pain and need help. In eyes we have usually salty kind of water it will help eyes for moisturizer and keep eye as wet all the time in eyes we have tear glands which will present behand caruncle when our brain hacked by sad emotions or pain it will trigger some of glands those glands trigger this tear gland than water get generate it's kind of very complicated process with simple simple mechanism finally you get tears.

Because our eyes can express every emotion that we cant express , we cant make understand, we can't show, we can't reveal, and we can't explain. Every emotion is felt but only few could be seen via eyes. When we are happy and we laugh so hard that our stomach starts to ache, cheeks bones start to hurt and tears flow from eyes. When we are depressed and don't know how to explain that I'm not ok when people think you are ok but suddenly you start shouting and that shouting converts into crying and also you didn't meant to hurt others just wanted to say that you are not ok. When you are at the top of the mountain, watching northern lights, ocean reef or any breathtaking and heavenly view you feel everything but you are speechless and you have tears in your eyes.

Some people “choke up” without shedding tears. Perhaps you are someone who has been told crying is a sign of weakness (which is not necessarily true since the shortest verse in the Bible is “Jesus wept.” Crying all the time over every little thing is what is a sign of weakness, not crying on occasion). If you’ve been led to believe crying is shameful, that may be why this is happening. I think it might be good for you to visit a good, reputable licensed professional counselor about this, too. Eyes can water either due to an emotion that you are both able and unable to express. Feeling sad is an emotion, to avoid it address the situation that makes you feel this way. Find out how much it has to be with your personal perspective. Cheers!