Responsible Men Are Going Into Extinction

A woman married a banker and believed that life will continue to get better. Then few years after the marriage, the man loses his job and that was the end of him being the breadwinner. The woman took over as breadwinner. My dad never trained me to be that irresponsible.

The truth is that women are not gifted to be breadwinners of a family. Their role in the home is to work with the man as a team and support him where necessary. When the woman provide for the family because the man does nothing to earn an income, that is no longer a family. The man is just an orphan living in the house and the woman is the mother superior.

You cannot claim to be the leader of the home when the women are the one taking care of the home. Of course, the man should not be the one doing everything at home without the contribution of a woman, but it should not get to a point where the woman is the one who provides for the home while the man just watches TV, eat and have sex. That irresponsible.

So far it seems our family and the school system is actually preparing more men to be irresponsible. To be irresponsible simple means not be ignorant of your ability and then refuse to use your ability to create wealth for your family.

Men are being raised in a society where the women are more responsible than the man, so they have come to understand that marriage is the woman providing for the home while the man does whatever he wants. Since we have lost touch with what it means to be a man and our role in marriage, we have positioned ourselves to abuse not only ourselves but the women we end up marrying.

We tend to become like our parents. If we are raised in a home where the women do everything, the men learn from their father and become irresponsible. Thereby, pressuring the women to do the things that they are not wired for and take on roles that are not traditionally theirs.

Irresponsibility doesn't just mean allowing the woman to do everything at home, it also means the man doing everything for the family. Marriage is a partnership, as such, each partner must play their separate role.

3 Reasons Why Men Become Irresponsible

Low Self Worth

Most men only think they are valuable because of the job they have and once the job is taken from them, their self-value nosedive. When you think you are worthless, you will never take a step to do anything. This is the reason why most men will never invest in their growth when they have a job.

Growing up all they have been told is that they should get good grades and get a decent job that will pay them well. Their fathers only celebrate them when they have good grades and when they don't they feel less valuable. As such they attach their value to having good grades and a good paying job because that is the only way to get the applause of their father.

When eventually they lose that same job, they no longer feel valuable. They fall into the pit of self-pity and insecurity. With their jobs they behave like kings, without their job with plummeting self-worth, they become worse than slaves. Irresponsibility is an inner job.

Inability to Control the Circumstances

Most men are afraid of the future, so they live in the moment. They don't want to imagine how life is as they get older and the increase in responsibility. And when they stay stuck in the present, they stop the discipline that will prepare them for the future. When the future comes, they give up on everything because they haven't prepared.

Can one take charge of circumstances? Yes, of course. Whatever happened to you is a reflection of what is happening in you. You may not be able to change what is happening to you but you can change what is happening in you. If you can take charge of your life, you can to a very large extent determine what happen to you

The word man means to be in charge. It is your responsibility to shape your inner world so that it will reflect into the kind of world you really want. Men who are not responsible are simply so because they have not taken charge of their thoughts and emotions. So they blame others for what they are going through and complain a lot about everything and give excuses why things are the way they are for them.

Modeling 

When you have a culture that allows women to be seen and treated as slaves, then the men who are growing up in such a culture will grow up and treat women like they were trained to know.

Children learn a lot through modeling and whatever is modeled by the father is what a male child pick up as the norm. This is why I advocate that people see marriage as a business deal and not just an emotional union. When it's a business everyone knows what their responsibility is. When the man places his rightful role, the children will learn and make it part of them. In business, we don't excuse people's irresponsibility and incompetence, but we do that in marriage. That beats me.

I grew up learning from a dad who took responsibility for the upkeep of his family. I learned from early on that a man must stand for his family. And that has shaped my life. Parents need to model a responsible lifestyle for their children.

Dimeji is the President/CEO of 1st Millionaire Maker Nig Ltd www.1stmillionairemaker.com