Retrouvaille

In yesterday’s therapy session a young married couple walked into my sessions’s room.It was too hilarious all tru the time. They were just 7 months into marriage and felt the disconnect and gap, and they were bold enough to accept it and to seek help. that was bold on their part.

What I liked about the session was, those two were absolutely amazing and interesting people individually. Like seriously, I could chill with either of the two over drinks or whatever that is ..

But marriage, oh boy, is something altogether different!.. isnt it ..? 

Marriage is two people who are basically trying to reconcile two sets of values. And two fundamental sets of human needs. One will get bored and will begin to resent the other, sometimes. Its monotonous and its a different creature altogether … Its a long term association .. longer than you think. Its committing with a person whom you dont know how life will shape and change and evolve it.. its a commitment that is going to be longer that your entire life that you have already lived. Beware, of what u are getting into… !  And again marriage has its own fun, joy and bliss of togetherness .. well, you get to choose your own devil to live with .. (hahhaaaa)

Dont fall in love and marry the person you Love “Today”,  In-Fact marry the person you know who they will become “Tomo”

So let me introduce the couple to you Roger (from the world of marketing, loves football and a lover for food, smart, great communicator and good build) and Tinna (very feminine, cinderella if I may call, awsum in communication, she works in finance, she doesnt like to cook, she reads a lot and plays the guitar). They just looked perfect together physically. He was a feet or so, taller than Tina. both having a successful career in good MNCs

At one in the session, Tina tells him, “you don't tell me that you love me, sufficient number of times”, to which Roger asks me “how many times should I tell her ‘I love you’ in a day”I said, “before someone else tells her”  Well there was laughter and the room totally lit up

I never felt once that there was a need of any counselling or therapy. All they needed was transparency of their feelings with each other, and they need a lot of communication and hugs and some great deal of sex.

Love is ‘two people not willing to give up on each other’ no matter what.. !

So, let me ask you, my readers : What is love according to you ? have you been in love? Was it just once? Were you successful in creating a better magic again ?

Because its hard sometimes, it doesnt mean you give up. Marriage “is’ going to be hard…. Its like an association tru all the phases of finance, security and a lot more .. Here with Roger and Tina, both these lovely couple, were searching a relationship, tru each other, in which they wanted to find stories of adventure and peace, the stars and the secrets of the ocean, the waves and the anchor. Both of them were looking for stability, security AND at the same time they wanted freedom and autonomy - now this is the confusion and the resolution in itself.

I guess by the end of the session Roger and Tina were willing to allow each other to become who they really wanted to become and not to force rules, beliefs, guidelines, ethical values or even self or love. That was a beautiful transition, i could see it in their eyes as they became one in that moment, the did get close, closer actually, they felt their breath on each other and kissed each other .. that was a moment ! 

Hallelujah cheers ! 

This improbable marriage between feeling of belonging and the feeling of freedom with one person is probably the greatest challenge of modern love to date !

So let me leave you with what I told them to repeat,

Remember to push you parter in newer directions, keep the excitement alive in areas that you can't even imagine, let not hugs, warmth and cuddles leave your bedroom. Ensure that lavender and eternity fragrances of the candles and potpourri is not replaced by jeev daya netraprabha and kailash jeevan and vickx. 

And make sure that you do it together.. ! 

Now the sacrament is complete ..