Rising to the Top in Male-Dominated Fields: Three Key Lessons from My Journey

Women often ask me what it takes to rise to the top in male-dominated fields. Having spent my entire career in the Army, the FBI, and the Transportation Industry, I've learned a lot of valuable lessons. The one piece of advice I’d give my 21-year-old self when I embarked on this journey is to simply get out of my own way. The truth is that we are often our biggest obstacles as we climb the ladder of success. Here are three lessons that I’ve learned over the course of my career that helped propel my career as a woman in male dominated fields. 

Lesson #1: Rise Above the Noise 

No matter what role you are in, whether you’re just starting out in your career or working your way up through an organization, it’s important to learn how to rise above the noise around you – the feedback, comments, and expectations. It can be easy to ruminate, slip into victim mode, or think you’re not good enough when challenged with a roadblock. However, if you rise above the feedback, take control of your narrative back into your hands, and address situations head-on when they happen, then you can channel all that energy into a smart strategy and put to bed any feelings of insecurity. 

In the Army, I was selected to participate in a specialized team that investigated the highest-priority espionage cases in the European Theater. I was thrilled. However, someone then told me the only reason I was selected was because I was a woman.  Instead of letting that slow me down, it inspired me to work even harder and establish myself as a professional and valued team member. That experience taught me not to take things personally. Even if I happened to be chosen because I was a woman, I proved that I was an invaluable player on the team because of my work ethic and performance.   

Lesson #2: Embrace Progress Over Perfection

Like so many other women working their way up through an organization, I spent many hours trying to achieve perfection. However, one of the biggest lessons I learned is that it’s not about achieving perfection, but more about embracing the progress that we make along the way.

Back in the 90’s, I was a young FBI Agent, when only 14% of Agents were women. I was assigned to an all-male task force at the Westminster Police Department. I was the only FBI Agent on the team. The voices in my head ran wild because not only did I have to perform as the only woman with a gun, I had to represent the FBI with a sea of local officers who weren’t fans of the FBI.  In my head, I thought they didn’t like me, which made me put even more pressure on myself to be “perfect.” But there was one moment where I couldn’t be completely perfect. You see, I wasn’t the best at organizing my case files and often couldn’t find reports. One day the entire team gathered around and they presented me with a certificate of achievement for “Misplacing the most police reports in the Unit” and signed it, “Mr. Magoo.” I learned two things that day: One, cops only pick on you when they like you, so to receive the funny certificate of achievement meant they had accepted me as part of their team – a BIG DEAL. And two, what I saw as a weakness actually made me more relatable, allowing me to connect a little bit deeper with the team. It was an imperfect moment that translated into really important progress for me as part of the team.  

Lesson #3: Believe That You Can Do The Impossible

To quote a modified version of Albert Einstein: “She who attempts the absurd can achieve the impossible.” The final keys to success are listening to your gut, trusting your instincts, and challenging the idea that “it can’t be done.” You have a choice: you can listen to the naysayers or chart your path on your terms. Many of these pivotal moments in my career have led to some of my greatest accomplishments, simply because I chose to believe that I could do the impossible.

When I became LA Metro’s Chief Safety Officer, we paid three contract law enforcement agencies $200 million yearly for substandard service. I made the very unpopular decision (especially with my law enforcement partners) that LA Metro needed to have its own police department. The fight lasted 18 months, and it became highly political. My work was criticized and my reputation was attacked. My gut told me it was the right thing to do and a hill I was willing to die on, knowing it would significantly increase safety and security for our frontline employees and riders. I was told it would never happen, time and time again. That is, until the Metro Board unanimously approved it last month. For me, it was a personal win and a true example that by believing that you can do the impossible, you can achieve your goals.

Translating These Lessons Into Action

By rising above the noise, embracing imperfection, and believing that you can do the impossible, you can rise to the top in any field. It’s not an easy journey, but success is within reach with the right mindset and leadership strategies. Remember, the only limits are the ones we place on ourselves. So, get out of your own way and rise to the top!

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