Rude and disrespectful behavior can harm your well-being.

Have you noticed how rude and disrespectful behavior seems to be everywhere these days?

You walk down the street and nearly get mowed over by someone glued to their phone, not bothering to look up and acknowledge your existence.

You call a customer service hotline and get treated with impatience and condescension as if your call is the biggest annoyance in the rep’s day.

You see online comments that personally attack and demean others over the smallest disagreements.

Rudeness has become the norm, and we’re all suffering the consequences.

The many silent treatment tactics.

 The constant blowing hot and cold, the Peter Pan flighty behavior, the mood swings, and treating you like you are just a placeholder before they finally discard you because they're always ready to pull the break-up trigger no matter how you show up for them and love on them.

It will never be enough and you will find yourself stressed out or like you were just an extra on their drama set.

And get ready to hear their sulk relationship while not focusing on the current one with you or watch all of their intense passion go towards their hobbies, friends or their career while you can only wish they had that passion for you.

Okay, you've been warned about the dismissive-avoidant!! Be kind to yourself and avoid them!!!

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 Thank you …. Dismissive-avoidant people are very independent. The person they want to rely on the most is themselves.

Getting too close feels to them like being thrown into a prison. You are constantly being pushed away.

Feeling dependent feels dangerous to them.

Feeling controlled feels intolerable.

They constantly feel their freedom is being threatened. “Stop pressuring me!”

Intimacy, vulnerability, and emotions feel unsafe.

They find it difficult to articulate their feelings.

Withdrawing is easier than expressing their needs.

They are terrified of commitment. As such, romantic entanglements tend not to be their priority.

They make awful partners. Look at the label used to define this behavior.

Do you want to add a word or two?

 Dismissive - do you enjoy having your feelings and needs be dismissed and treated like you are annoying for having basic human needs like intimacy, love, and connectedness and the normal behaviors that go along with that?

If you have needs then you will never get them met and there will be no safety for you since your dismissive “partner” is always ready to abandon you without any warning.

Avoidant - are you ok with having to chase after someone who dodges anything having to do with a healthy relationship?

Dismissive Avoidant shouldn’t be classified as an attachment style because it doesn’t involve attachment at all- it involves avoiding attachment and along with it avoiding any and all responsibilities that come with it.

Just try to hold them accountable for the bad behavior and they will call you needy sensitive and leave you in the dirt.

The worst part is that they pretend to be someone you would actually want to be with at first - and manipulate to create closeness and make you feel like your needs are being met. Then the moment you reciprocate or feel comfortable they yank the rug out and do a 180.

I attempted a relationship with an avoidant (didn’t know she was at first). She would compliment me show affection and say all sorts of things which would indicate she was into me and saw a future.

She initiated contact and made plans more than I did and expressed herself, seemed vulnerable, and made me feel like she understood me.

Your comments ……

Going on criticizing me for things she had previously been praising me for. She suddenly didn’t like how I dressed, my haircut, my shoes, or how I talked.

She brought up little moments from the previous weeks and picked them apart, ridiculing me for things I was totally unaware of and honestly didn’t really believe actually happened.

Basically, it's gaslighting me.

If your partner consistently belittles your opinions or dismisses your feelings, these may be signs of disrespect in your relationship.

Recognizing signs of disrespect is important for maintaining a healthy and balanced connection with your partner. It’s vital to address these issues early on to prevent further harm to the relationship.

When you notice behaviors like constant criticism, being talked over, or feeling unheard, it’s necessary to communicate your feelings openly and honestly.

Addressing these issues requires courage and vulnerability, but it’s vital for your well-being and the health of your relationship. You deserve to be respected and valued in your partnership.

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