Shall I Turn the Other Cheek?

Years ago, when I was in the corporate world, I was, to put it bluntly, ruthless. Some might have even called me cold-hearted. I was singularly focused on my goals, caring about little else but success and money. I was hungry for it. Nothing else mattered.

But as I’ve shared before, New York City was a turning point in my life. It wasn’t just another chapter—it was a complete transformation. Moving to the U.S. was my ultimate dream, one I pursued relentlessly despite knowing no one there. And yet, just one month after landing in America, I celebrated my 40th birthday surrounded by new friends in the heart of NYC. I had achieved what seemed impossible: working and living in a city I had always admired.

Soon after, I found myself meeting people in Washington, D.C.—influential figures I had only admired from afar as a child. It was surreal. Driving back to New York from Capitol Hill after a whirlwind of success and achievement, I should have felt fulfilled. But something still felt… hollow. I realized no accolade, no title, and no amount of money could truly make me happy.

It was during this time that something deeply personal happened—something that changed everything. I reconnected with God. That moment didn’t just shift my perspective; it completely altered who I was. I became a different person—kinder, more grounded, and committed to living as a good Christian. Trust me, it hasn’t been easy. Living in this fast-paced, critical world, and given my past, staying true to these values has been one of the greatest challenges of my life.

And yet, I’ve made it through.

Now, I celebrate every win, no matter how small. Every victory, every step forward, is a big event for me because I’ve learned to cherish the journey. But recently, I faced something that tested my growth—a success I was proud of was met with negativity. Instead of congratulations, there were dismissive comments meant to minimize and belittle my happiness.

In that moment, the old me—the ruthless, corporate Nadia—wanted to rise up. I could have crushed them with biting words or crafted a plan to undermine them. That’s who I was. But the new me? I was confused. Devastated. I thought, “God, what do I do? I don’t deserve this.” There was a battle inside me: Should I remain silent, turn the other cheek, and let it go? Or should I stand my ground?

You see, people often don’t know your story. They don’t understand the battles you’ve fought or the sacrifices you’ve made to get where you are. But does that even matter? Perhaps not. What does matter is this: never let anyone take away your happiness, pride, or dignity.

And let’s be real—sometimes, people try to make you feel small so they can feel bigger. They diminish your wins because your happiness reminds them of their dissatisfaction. Maybe they’re jealous, or maybe they just haven’t found their light yet. Why else would someone be bitter or negative about another person’s joy?

Here’s the key: don’t hold onto their bitterness. Let it go. Bitterness only eats you alive from the inside. But does letting go mean forgetting the snake that’s bitten you? That’s something I’m still working on. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to trust the same hand that caused you harm. And it’s okay to take time to figure out where to draw that line.

One thing I’ve decided, though, is this: I won’t turn the other cheek to those who try to steal my joy. I’ve come too far to let anyone—regardless of their status, age, or position—belittle me or make me question my worth. That’s between them and God.

I’m sharing this because I know many of you face the same dilemmas. You’re on your own journey, making progress that matters to you. And yet, there are always those who try to tear you down or make you feel small. My advice to you is this: say NO. Celebrate your wins unapologetically. Don’t let anyone patronize you or diminish your accomplishments. Their opinions are not your responsibility. Your worth is yours alone to define.

So, shall I turn the other cheek? No. And I’m okay with that. I hope God forgives me, but I won’t let anyone steal my joy or silence my victories. Neither should you.

4 Tips to Handle Negativity

Dealing with negativity either is in the workplace or in general in your life can be emotionally draining, but these strategies can help you maintain your well-being and sense of self:

1. Set Clear Boundaries Protect your mental space by being clear about what you will and won’t tolerate. It’s okay to stand up for yourself when someone crosses a line but do so professionally and calmly. For example, if a colleague minimizes your achievement, respond with confidence: “I’m proud of this accomplishment, and it means a lot to me.”
2. Don’t Take It Personally Remember, people’s negativity often stems from their own insecurities. It’s not about you; it’s about them. Practice detachment and remind yourself that their opinions don’t define your worth or success.
3. Celebrate Yourself, Loudly if Needed Create your own cheerleading section. Share your wins with supportive colleagues, friends, or loved ones. Recognizing your achievements with those who uplift you will help counteract the negativity of others.
4. Respond with Grace, Not Bitterness If someone tries to undermine you, take the high road. Address the behavior if necessary but avoid retaliating. This keeps your integrity intact and reinforces your commitment to personal growth. As the saying goes, “Don’t wrestle with pigs; you both get dirty, and the pig likes it.”

How Yoga Helps Manage Negativity

As I’ve gone through these challenges, yoga has been one of the most powerful tools for my mental and emotional well-being. Yoga isn’t just about movement—it’s about finding balance and strength within yourself. It has taught me to pause, breathe, and respond to difficult situations with clarity and calmness. When I feel overwhelmed by negativity, a few minutes on my mat helps me reconnect with my inner peace and reset my mindset.

Starting in January, I’ll be offering free online yoga classes on my YouTube channel to share this incredible practice with all of you. Whether you’re new to yoga or a seasoned practitioner, these classes will help you navigate the challenges of life with grace and resilience. Check out the link below and subscribe so you won’t miss a session. Let’s build a stronger, calmer, and more confident version of ourselves—together.

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Keep smiling. You,ve got this, We've got this.

Nadia