Show it while they are here

It has been over a year since my uncle died and one of my greatest regrets is that I never really told him how much he meant to me. I never told him how much I loved him. The guilt is alive in me, and it still makes me cry. You should not be like me, and the only way to ensure that is to begin to tell those dear to you how you feel about them or how much they mean to you. Not just saying but putting it in action.

We are all aware of the fact that people will not be here forever but it never really sinks in until they are gone. We take our moment with people for granted until they are no more, and then we begin to regret and feel guilty. You can die at any point, so can those dear to your heart. 

Express your love and gratitude to people while they are available instead of singing their praises when they are no more. Do things for people when they are present to see and appreciate it rather than doing things for them when they are no more. 

We humans are pretty good at singing the praises of the dead more than we sing that of the living. That he is your husband and she is your wife does not mean you should not constantly express your love. Yes, they know you already love them but showing it renews the bond. 

 Tell and show your parents the depth of your love for them. You will not have them around forever so just do it now that they can see it. 

Love is best felt when action is involved. Do not just tell people you love them; show it. Many of us can tell people we love them but few of us show it.

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