It is simple to be happy with everyone

Do you know why it is so hard to be happy is because we are never satisfied with what is, with what we have, with the way things are; it is simply in our nature to want more, to want better, for us to never be truly content. Good is never good enough, we always want more and better. Happiness is different for everyone and far be it from me to presume to tell anyone how to get it, but I think there are a few certain and universal requirements that would be a good place to start.

And while they may be a bit trite or cliched, I'd say that if you want to be happy, start by...loving yourself completely, just as you are, being confident in yourself and who you are, believing in yourself no matter what, having/finding the courage to pursue your dreams, acting boldly with conviction, passion and purpose, being able to accept, learn and grow from failure, mistakes and losses, these are some of what I'd consider to be essentials for happiness.

They are also things that others cannot give you or do for you because they are within you. But they are also things that you have significant if not complete control over. You have the key, you hold the power to unlock that which is within you, your own confidence, courage, love, joy and happiness in life.

Happiness is simply a choice you have to make for yourself, it's not always easy, but it is your choice. Practice making this choice and you will get better at it, do it enough and it will become a habit, when it becomes a habit it will feel easier, and with time you will hopefully come to realize that you are happy more often than not.

We can be happy in the very little things of life, But we choose not to. Why? The reasons are really lame and superficial, at least to me. Here is what I learnt that when you start looking for reasons to be happy, you will realize you have so much to be happy about than many other people do. A good meal, A close friend, An ice cream, A day outing!! These are the things which usually go un-noticed.

The real challenge was about finding something each day, which makes you happy that day. So , momentarily, you stop caring for your long term happiness goals (A job, a car, and other things) and start focusing on that particular day. Trust me, It works!! I think we should really be living our lives like that. One day at a time. And eventually we will be happy throughout our lives.

And a lot of time, we make somebody in-charge of our happiness. If we feel like watching a movie, we will wait till the time one of our friends is available. If we want to wear a dress, we will not wear it if somebody tells us that we look fat in it. We really need to stop doing it! We need to keep ourselves happy. Do whatever makes you feel good. Don't try to reason it out with people! Never! We care about people a lot! We need to know who matters and who does not. we need to prioritize the people in our life. But, always.. always.. be your own priority! Whenever somebody/something upsets you.. follow the 5 year rule to evaluate the situation. Ask yourself.. In 5 years, will this matter to me? If not, let it go!

Moreover, when you will start doing these you will realize it's really not that tough to be happy. It's just in our heads. We expect way too much from us at times, or sometimes we feel burdened from others' expectations from us. Till the time, it is making you rise up and grow in life, It is fine. But, don't let it bring you down. Stay away from negative people. When people try to bring you down, Pull yourself up, so high that you are much beyond their reach. Give yourself time, Improve yourself, find time for things that make you happy, and people that matter.

Happiness is an emotion and emotions are merely your reactions to thoughts. Because thoughts are largely derived from observation, you are looking to your observations to give you the emotional state you wish to be in. If you observed the lack of not having a car for instance and I gave you the car of your dreams, that car would probably bring about wonderful thoughts and very positive emotions. Then after some time, you may begin to think that the car only solved one of your many problems and nothing else is going right in your life.

You may even begin to have thoughts of being worthless because you should have been able to buy it yourself. You may even resent it a little every time you have to pay taxes and insurance because even though it was a gift, you still are paying for it. You may get nervous about possible scenarios like it getting a scratch on it. This car that made you feel like a lottery winner is the same car that made you feel these other negative emotions.

The observation never changed but your thoughts about it did. So people often spend their whole lives trying to manipulate their circumstances in order to observe what makes them happy, when it's really their thoughts that control their emotional state. Manipulating circumstances is difficult. Changing the way you think requires effort and practice but once you do it, you live your life enjoying any emotional state you desire independent of observation. Cheers!

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