Success That Sets Your Soul on Fire 🔥

I remember the knot that formed in my stomach the first time I truly asked myself, "What does success really mean to ME?"

Up until that point, I had blindly chased society's definition of success - racking up accolades, climbing the corporate ladder, and equating my self-worth with my net worth. But no matter how many boxes I checked off, something felt...empty.

That's when I realized something profound: If our "success" doesn't light us up from the inside out, it's not true success at all.

As Anna Quindlen beautifully stated,

"If your success is not on your own terms, if it looks good to the world but does not feel good in your heart, it is not success at all."

For so many of us high-achieving women, we've spent years hustling towards a version of success that was defined for us, rather than by us. We sacrificed our authentic desires for the illusion of having "made it."

But here's the thing, having it "all" means nothing if it doesn't fill your soul.

So today, I'm sharing the 5 powerful steps that realigned me with success on my terms. These aren't just lofty philosophical ideas - they're tangible actions you can take to start charting a life that feels wildly purposeful, satisfying, and 100% TRUE to you.

Because you deserve to experience the sweetness of a life well-lived, defined by your unique brilliance and values. Not anyone else's.

Ready to dive in? Grab your journal and let's get to it!

1. Excavate Your Core Values

When was the last time you got radically honest about what matters most? Not what you think should matter, but what your soul craves.

Is it freedom and adventure?

Creativity and self-expression?

Family and deep connections?

Service and leaving a legacy?

Take some quiet time to reconnect with the dreams and desires that make your heart sing. These are your core values - let them be the compass guiding you towards YOUR definition of success.

2. Define what success looks like for you

Once you have a clear understanding of your values and goals, define what success looks like for you.

Ask yourself what you want to achieve in life, and what would make you feel fulfilled and accomplished.

Make sure your definition of success aligns with your values and goals.

I call this my success vision statement.

3. Ditch the External Noise

Here's the hard truth: No amount of admiration, authority or zeros in your net worth can give you true fulfillment. That soul satisfaction originates from within.

So take out the trash of societal expectations and rediscover your inherent worthiness. Because you are already enough, without the next promotion/award/acquisition.

Redefining success is an intimate journey of unhooking from external validation and realigning with your authentic self. It's where the magic happens.

4. Reframe "Failure" as Curiosity

On this path of self-discovery, you will stumble.

You'll over course-correct.

You'll evolve in ways you can't yet imagine.

But here's what I want you to remember:

There is no such thing as failure, only feedback. Every seeming setback contains profound lessons urging you towards greater clarity and expansion.

Stay curious about what these "failures" are revealing about your priorities, boundaries, and non-negotiables. That openness and self-awareness? That's true success.

5. (Re)Evaluate Regularly

Success is not a fixed goal, but a constantly evolving journey. Re-evaluate your definition of success regularly to ensure that it continues to align with your values and goals.

As you grow and evolve, your definition of success may also change.

Ultimately, figuring out what success means to you is a personal journey that requires introspection, reflection, and self-awareness. It's important to define success in a way that is meaningful to you, rather than simply adopting societal norms or others' definitions of success.

By focusing on your values, goals, and personal growth, you can define success in a way that is authentic and fulfilling.

So let's redefine success together. Not through the lens of what we "should" want, but by unapologetically honoring our unique paths to feeling fully alive.

I’m curious which of the five strategies above most resonate for you?

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