Those who believe in their own steps

Let us start with a story. There was this 11 year boy in my village. He fell in a remote well around 7 in the evening. He tried shouting for help. But there was no one around at that time. Now he had only two options. Swim until someone arrives. or then just die quietly. Do you know how many hours he swam continuously? 16 long hours. Imagine this tender boy of 11 swam for 16 hours non stop just to survive and then someone came around in the morning and rescued him. When I heard about the story, I couldn't believe it. Because he was a normal boy. No extraordinary physical strength. I understood one thing from it. How mentally strong you are depends on the situations you have been through.

With every step either you move forward or there is learning. Normally when we do not get the desired outcome or when we see things as a failure we start complaining and miss out in acknowledging the learning. So access to move forward and stronger consciously is - stop complaining, inquire learning, and take new actions. We all agree that every step shall have something important to make one stronger which automatically won’t unless we keep learning lesson by failure and success.

Each success or failure we experience have to be analyzed to find the reason. Moreover, we have to reason with has much holistic view of (we can think) in a particular situation and not to view as universal rule as we could be missing something subtle in nature that easily could be missed. Therefore, the reasoning has to be accompanied by certain observation like the reason of the way we selected particular step. Was the selection of step because of one’s belief or guidance of someone or simply our own reasoning or the state of harmony or disharmony the mind was situated for personal or social conditions?

All the points mentioned could have influenced in the right or wrong step which otherwise would have been different and were not directly related with the subject but away from it.And such reasoning could help in rationalizing and of course it is indicating a state of calmness of mind being responsible in selecting the step. It would be evident that at times to solve complex problem one is not in the right spirit he needs to introspect or meditate so could need to defer immediate step whereas certain decision could have demand immediate step and complex irrespective we are not prepared.

We might have made an error because the step was to be taken and we were not in the right frame or self-belief was lacking and were dependent on others who we consider trust worthy. Trusting them and taking decision resulted not resulting as the best solution should not be seen and wrong guidance by other because he also could be in the best situation and yet assisted in his perception. This indicates that we lack trust in self and when we think so we try to think addressing our own trait which works as self-improvement as a golden opportunity for changing our perception. We might come across many setbacks and miss the success easily with pride generally indicates our mental conditioning and unpreparedness of accepting anything which is against our set of reasoning.

Once we are able to open the door of mind to allow an idea which could have merit but has never been thought earlier for whatever reason we are ready for reforming. These changes should show its effect in our attitude of humility and listening others and many such noble virtues. Once we begin to accept these self-reforming changes we start strengthening our belief when we can feel reduction of anxiety to disturb as much by momentary stress we come across. The strengthening of self-belief is increasing trust in self-accompanied by ration thinking which of course is a slow process but experiencing such life is bound to make us stronger with time.

Not always but its something one has to cling onto forever in able excel in any section of live. I am stoical which means I go through existential crisis all alone every now & then. Trust me when I say it I have taken countless bad decision that could have crippled my career. Having gone through anxiety disorder Hope & Zeal to be better dragged me out of that hell hole. I am someone who believes in doing then regretting hence getting some experience be it good or bad, It bolsters your personality . So contemplate before action but don't ever let apprehension dictate your action. Cheers!