Is It Time to Quit Your Job?

Everyone has bad days at work or even long periods when they feel disheartened about their job. But how do you know the difference between ordinary, occasional dissatisfaction and a genuine mismatch? How do you know when you’re truly ready to move on? And how do you then get out gracefully?

What the Experts Say

Quitting a job can negatively impact your career and disrupt your personal life. But staying in an undesirable situation can be worse. “I find a lot of people paralyzed by their unhappiness with their current reality,” says Leonard Schlesinger, the president of Babson College . Here’s how to decide whether it’s really time to quit, and if so, how to leave effectively:

Watch for signals

Start by figuring out whether you lack excitement about the bigger picture or the day-to-day activities. “When people ask me how things are going, my standard response is that I love what I’m doing, which doesn’t mean that I like it on any given day,” says Schlesinger. Here are some signs that something larger is going on:

If you notice one or more of these signs, pay attention and ask yourself whether the costs of staying in the job are reasonable and acceptable to you. It may be that the “price of admission” — opportunity loss, emotional toll — aren’t worth it.

Test the waters

To further explore if you’re ready to leave, run a few experiments to assess whether your perception is reality. “It’s better to rely on information gathered from live interaction with people rather than spinning around in your own chair,” says Schlesinger. He suggests having an honest conversation with your boss about how you’re perceived and what you’re capable of achieving in your role. If you think your manager wouldn’t be open to that kind of discussion, Gulati advises looking at your last two annual performance reviews. “Do the comments make you feel empowered or disheartened? If your performance is stagnating despite your best efforts, you might want to quit before further reputational damage is done,” he says. You can also test whether there’s a mismatch by putting your hat in the ring the next time your boss has a high-profile piece of work to be done. If you’re overlooked, it may be that he doesn’t appreciate your skills and it’s time to move on.

Know the risks

Before making a final decision, make sure you’ve assessed the downsides. Even if you’re certain you’re in the wrong job, there are risks to leaving — you may damage existing relationships, lose needed income, or blemish your resume. According to Gulati, people usually get ten chances to quit a job in their lifetime, which works out to an average of every four years. “If you’re changing things up much more than that, companies will start looking at you as a serial job-hopper,” he says. This will hurt your professional reputation and your chances of getting jobs in the future. “This could become especially problematic if you find a role you really want but can’t get a foot in the door because of your dicey resume,” says Gulati.

Always leave toward something

You can mitigate some of the risks by deciding what’s next before you leave. Both experts agree that it’s better to have at least an inkling of what you want to do, if not a full-fledged plan. “People should quit to secure a positive role, not on an emotional whim to avoid a negative situation. If you truly hate what you’re doing, you should absolutely leave but not before you identify something that you have a good chance of loving in the future,” says Gulati. Scheslinger adds “I wouldn’t leave without some sort of plan, whether it’s a set of experiments to confirm what you’re excited about doing next or a conscious strategy to make something happen.” Of course, that’s not always possible. “Many people leave it open ended, especially if they’re financially secure or craving an uninterrupted period of introspection,” says Gulati.

Don’t run out the door

You may fantasize about telling your boss to take this job and shove it, but that will only give you short-term relief and could possibly ruin your professional life. “There’s nothing worse than taking a bad situation and leaving it badly. How you leave is as important as how you arrive,” says Schlesinger. Discuss the decision with people who matter in your life: spouse, children, friends. Ask mentors or former bosses for advice. Most importantly, Schlesinger recommends, “Look at it from your boss’s point of view and think about how you can communicate a process for disengagement that is respectful of the situation.” Gulati agrees: “Once you’ve decided to quit and have a last day in mind, you should let your immediate supervisor know and follow due process.”

Principles to Remember

Do:

• Ask yourself whether the job can be done, whether you can do it, and if the costs of doing it are too high
• Run short experiments to test whether your current situation is unfixable
• Have some sense of what you want to do next before you quit

Don’t:

• Stay if you don’t want the job your boss or another superior is doing — you need to have a vision of what will come next
• Burn bridges no matter how dissatisfied you are — it could ruin your professional reputation
• Make quitting a habit — you’ll blemish your resume