Transcendent Aging, Key #2: Wisdom

[excerpted from, 9 Keys to Transcendent Aging: Transpersonal Psychology ©2023]

Our second key to transcendent aging is wisdom. One of those normative expectations of aging, we conceive of elders as wise. And surely, we want to consider ourselves as wise ones, when we too reach our elder years.

Wisdom is commonly thought of as accumulated knowledge and experience. As measured by a variety of psychological scales, it’s viewed as a personality trait including empathy and compassion, emotional regulation, self-reflection, broad perspective, comfort with uncertainty and change, judgment, and often some form of spirituality (Reynolds et al., 2022). It’s seen as a combination of virtue and wit, is both domain-general and specific (i.e., we can be wise in a specific area or across areas), and omniscient or all-encompassing (i.e., to be a ‘wise person’) (Zhang et al., 2022).

All too often, however, as we age we begin to feel invisible – increasingly irrelevant and dismissed. This is an incredibly painful experience; we rightly feel that we’ve gained a lifetime of knowledge and experience, only to discover that it isn’t valued by others – and possibly, in the face of great change around us, we too may no longer see the value or relevance of our lived experience.

To wit: in this technological age, we’ve also seen radical shifts in business and economic models – so can we truly feel that our 40 years of working life are of value to be shared with younger generations for whom the working world is markedly different? On a personal level, the way that people relate to one another is also undergoing profound change, and while we may decry the prioritizing of online interaction over ‘face-to-face’ and the metaverse to ‘real life’, emerging research tells a different story. Rather than diminished or detrimental, we humans are evolving into new ways of being. (Can the singularity be far behind?)

And yet.

On the human level, the psychological and emotional, our lifetime of experience holds great value. We know what it is to be loved, and to hate. We know about loss, and recovery. We know about pain and sorrow, joy and marvel; we know what it takes to get up in the morning, to show compassion to others, to feel gratitude, to cherish the natural world and those we love. And so much more.

On the transpersonal level, even more. Meditation, mindfulness, awe, appreciation of beauty, interconnectedness, creativity, flow, mystical experience, self-transcendence – these advanced areas of human development are timeless, even as new ways of achieving them – meditation apps, VR-induced mystical experience – may arise.

In the workforce, home life, and many other areas, universals remain, however much the world around us may change. We must look for these – as we also let go of knowledge and skills we’ve acquired which have in fact lost their relevance, and not try to hold onto them.

The research is divided on whether intellect and wisdom are interrelated; fluid intelligence and wisdom have been shown to correlate (Glück & Scherpf, 2022), and also to be independent of one another (Lindbergh et al., 2022). We can be genius overall, which may also mean we’ve acquired a great deal of knowledge; but we may also be ignorant of human psychology, behavior, and relationship, or have knowledge relevant to our specialty but not as much in the realm of daily life. We may live a life filled with experience and have learned a great deal to pass on to others, or our life may have been small to date, predictable and restricted without novelty – or, we may have experienced that large life yet remained within our prejudices and limited worldview, and not learned a thing. To be wise is not the same as being intelligent, though their relationship is not yet fully understood.

To be wise does mean that we have knowledge and experience which can help others, if we choose to share it – though not everyone elects to do so. But how does our wisdom help us, in our elder stage of life?

Accumulated wisdom, and our awareness of same, contributes to wellbeing (Glück et al., 2022) and quality of life (Chen et al., 2022). Across a number of studies reviewed by Reynolds et al. (2022), perceived wisdom has been associated with life satisfaction, resilience, lower incidence of loneliness and depression, and greater overall physical and mental health. Our wisdom contributes greatly to our coping skills for managing uncertainty, emotional regulation, reflection, and openness (Glück, 2022). It’s associated with humor and wit, which come with their own benefits to health (Brudek et al., 2021), and helps us mediate our attitudes and emotions toward death (Brudek & Sekowski, 2021).

Intergenerational wisdom-sharing brings its own boost to wellbeing (Kahlbaugh & Budnick, 2023; Pillemer et al., 2022), and wisdom is directly associated with self-transcendence (Kim et al., 2023), to be later discussed. Interestingly to this ‘global citizen’, international relocation, as we must learn in a multitude of arenas simultaneously and engage in a high degree of adaptation, problem-solving, and coping, brings a particular boost to wisdom (Kutor et al., 2022) – and thus, we can presume that independent travel would have a related if lesser effect.

Psychology places a great deal of focus in this area, and transpersonal psychology especially, as wisdom can also come from sources less easily explained – that is, not only from our lived experiences and acquired knowledge but also from instinct, intuition, our interpersonal and universal interconnectedness, and from spirituality and mystical experience.

And so, as in the previous key, we begin with personal assessment of wisdom. Do you feel wise? When you review your life, can you identify broad areas of expertise? What about experiences both painful and joyful, that you associate with lessons learned? Do you feel that you have knowledge and experience, including interpersonal relationships and emotions, that has grown over the years and benefits you in your daily life? Are you sharing this with others, and if so, how? In what other ways could you be sharing your perception and judgment, problem-solving, broad perspective and attention to detail, maybe even metaphysical or transpersonal skills?

To identify as ‘wise one’ is its own reward.

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Exercises:

Contemplate times in your life when you felt wise – as you were able to solve complex problems, gave someone good advice, developed confidence in your skills, recognized your accumulated experiences. In what areas do you feel wise now? Wisdom is both generalized and specific, so we can also consider those areas in which we feel especially wise.

As in the previous topic of meaning, we can also meditate on our own wisdom, and engage in brainstorming / mind-mapping to discover our sources of wisdom and how they’re interconnected.

Learn and practice any introspective skill for accessing your inner wisdom – that which isn’t readily available to our conscious mind, but resides in the unconscious. Such practices include meditation, lucid dreaming, journal writing, self-hypnosis, and others.

Regularly spend time in natural settings by taking walks, gardening, sitting in a meadow, swimming in the sea, or whatever means is best for you – and listen deeply, to your own inner voice and that of nature in communication. This is best conducted in solitude; if not feasible for safety or other reasons, go with a friend and make a pact beforehand to remain in silence.

Similarly, if you aren’t already meditating regularly, make it a daily practice. In this solitude and inner stillness, we discover all manner of wisdom.

Share your wisdom. Even more than in the previous section on meaning-making, we’re meant to externalize our wisdom rather than keeping it to ourselves, to contribute to the greater good. Consider self-publishing small books – manageable to write, on a wide range of topics, and easy publishing – or again, in a blog, video channel, or social media posts. Never let yourself think, “I don’t have anything to say.” You have a lifetime of experience to share.

Become a mentor. Consider online mentoring if time or physical constraints preclude in-person engagement. Also consider group mentoring or ‘eldering’ online, in which you can share your knowledge, skills, and experience with those who are seeking advice.

Teach a class. This can be as a volunteer, and can also be online. Even if we haven’t taught before, we can learn some basic skills of teaching, and design courses around knowledge and experience we’ve gained throughout our lives. Rather than reminiscing, and not always about sharing your professional expertise, this can be along the lines of, “I have something to share with you that I think will be helpful.”

Create a ‘wisdom circle’ with several friends and explore other ways in which to share your collective wisdom.

9 Keys to Transcendent Aging, by Anne Hilty, ©2023

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